Guilty of always angry

Tighthead wrote: I feel helpless

Why do you feel helpless? What is in your life that you can't control?

You are being hard on yourself. When ever you feel angry, take a paper and write down things you are grateful for or repeat in your mind all the things which you are grateful for. its our mind which play tricks with us and we have to confuse it ..

Tighthead wrote:I don't remember when it all started. I used to work. I'm on a break from work. And I was calm but in the last year or so I have become a very angry person. I was a person who could boast that I would never get angry. But now it gets out of my hand. I'm angry at my son always and he's just 9. I'm angry at myself. And I'm very very angry with a relative who stays with us for work. Sometimes I jut breakdown tired of being angry and frustrated. I feel helpless and no amount of will saves it. I just paid and shake terribly when I get angry.

Dear Tighthead,

It strikes me as very important that you used to be Consistently Baseline Calm – that you could “boast” that you “would never get angry”. I can’t suppose your Life was ever so Perfect that you had never a cause to be Angry, for, after all, if you were proud that you were never Angry, then I can only assume that you realized that on occasions you had plenty of reason to be Angry – and that Other People you knew would certainly have ‘flipped out’ over things that left you unruffled. The Only Thing that I can suppose Changed is your Hormonal Balance or your Health somehow took a Dive. I’ve read that Hypoglycemia can put people in a terrible mood, until they get their little glass of orange juice that turns everything around, and that is just one example of how Physical Problems can cause Mood Complications. I could ask questions about your physical profile, but I am not a Doctor. But if you FEEL as though something Physical may have changed, maybe you should go to a Doctor and get Labs done.

But, still there remains a possibility that previously your Life WAS Perfect, or perfect enough. You said you are on a “break from work”. Well, was this break something you choose, or did you lose a job and simply think to sit tight for a while? I lost my Job but then got right to work prepping for a 2nd Career, and kept my self too busy to get moody about my changed circumstances. Also, I wonder whether you are every Angry and Moody when you are alone in the house. I can see your son going off to school and your Relative who moved in “for work” must go off to “work” sometime or another , which would leave you alone. Do you enjoy being alone? Do you DO anything? Does your Life have a Purpose? You may simply be really exasperated or depressed with Life’s Aimlessness. Many people turn to Drugs and Alcohol for such a reason, and you are lucky you are not one of them. But, still, this sudden onset of Chronic Anger is not good for you, as you must certainly realize.

If you were Okay when you were working, well, maybe THAT is something you need, that is, a Set Routine that Keeps you Busy. You could have a Set Routine without having to go to Work (I keep busy every day and the days never seem long enough for all I have to do), but Self-Imposed Routines only work out if one has a belief that the Routine is somehow Important – People TALK about Self-Discipline, but mostly it is the Case that People have PLENTY of Self-Discipline when they think something is Important. Jobs are like that – You NEED the Money, and the other Workers are depending upon you to Do your Share, and so the Job FEELS Important.

Well, Tighthead, that is enough Guessing for one evening… let me know if any of this was getting close?

Bro, as soon as please control yourself because, do you know too much engred harmful for every person? Nobody like angry person and excessive angry mind may call uncomfortable moment.

I understand, my friends have nicknamed me the Hulk now. I thought it was funny at first, but the tagline of "I'm always angry" is no longer endearing. I have learned that it really seems to be basic irritations, and little bits of stress play into making an angry environment, rather than the actual problem that made me angry.

I notice it depends on where I am and what is happening. I am trying to PAUSE, BREATE and then THINK before responding, because otherwise my gut reaction is seeing red for the dumbest things. I have understood that happiness is not a "thing" you find now, but rather a choice. You can choose to be happy. Irritations will always happen.