What a simple thing to do to help my recovery today?

Hey there

I'm sorry to hear you cannot go out and enjoy some fresh air.
I tend to be a social recluse. So I find plenty of things to do at home that keep my head occupied.

Teach yourself how to draw hard things (roses are a good one to start off with)
Download some music making software if you can, make some simple sh** that makes you feel good about yourself
Find a book, maybe a new one, perhaps an old one, and spend some time in between other things reading it till it's finished.
Tidy, if you are not a tidy person, Tidy stuff! especially whilst listening to your favourite music.


Try and stay away from your phone, it's a void of nothingness. Any games you play on there could be fun, but they're not giving you any sense of gratitude of any day to day activity that will help you become stronger. They are just for fun.

Try and get in contact with friends. Just message them and see what happens (This might contradict the above, but believe me, getting just a hello from someone could make your day, be the person to make the effort first, always)

I wish I could help more. It's hard to get someone with low moral to do something like making music, or downloading the software to begin with, but if you cannot do that, try reading, lots and lots of reading in sporadic moments throughout the day can help boost moral. You're teaching yourself, and you're learning. The brain loves this kinda sh**! It'll release more of the good hormones and hopefully get things rolling.

All the best

Syd

Good morning syd all your recommendations sound good but the problem is any activity I do has the potential to damage my mental health anyway that's why I can't do the things I enjoy my condition is terrible when I think im enjoying myself deep inside my situation might be getting worse that's tricky and exhaustive for example last night I was very bored and listened music for a hour I enjoyed it but in fact it night be a melancholy cocktail that worsens my depression the problem is I can't understand what's really going on with me your ideas are good creating music specially good with some guided meditation maybe that must be considered thanks

Dear one, have you looked your symptoms up online? Seems to me you can't fix anything if you don't understand what's going on.

I haven't it's confusing can't understand I don't think online diagnosis by a mentally disturbed person like me won't help

Looking for my symptoms as a simple thing to do for recovery? How will that help my mental disease can't be classified I think there are some hints though anxiety very intense anxiety first depression can't able to enjoy things pessimism worries low understanding memory problems and most important FAKES that's the most disturbing part also some simple joys of life make the disease worse that's very annoying in light of these experienced symptoms I don't think anyone can reach a known diagnosis what say you

Well, I certainly won't attempt it! That being said, having 'known' you for a few years I believe you're a good-hearted and sensitive man who I would be happy to have as a friend.

Anxiety, depression and pessimism nearly always come from a bad self-image. That is, feeling not as good as other people and therefore not deserving of the best things in life. Difficulties with concentration and memory can come from ruminating all the time on what's wrong in your life.

I know you've had some problems with your father, which I don't think you've mentioned lately.

I don't know what you mean by FAKES, and the simple joys of life making you feel worse. Will you tell me?

My father is someone who tries every pathetic tactic to ruin my life I get used to it that's why I don't mention about him lately everyone knows my problems with my father anyways he is a very big trouble. when I do something that seems joy even a simple thing I illusion that I'm enjoying it but in fact I'm a depressive guy who doesn't get even a little joy from life this works against me in a second way when I want to get the fake joy that activity I do damages my recovery so fake joy damages my recovery. I can't understand what you mean by mentioning relation with bad self image and mental disease I'm really a low self confidence guy at maximum that is caused by my father at my youth something inside says I'm a quality special man who deserves the best but indeed some part of me says I'm a failure
I like everyone who posts at this forum can't think a life without them thanks everyone once again
I have quite a pathetic life style and I'm exhausted but going on with boards support

Do you understand that your father is at the bottom of all your troubles?

desperate788 wrote:something inside says I'm a quality special man who deserves the best...

I'm glad you have this Something! It's telling you the truth.

but indeed some part of me says I'm a failure

I have quite a pathetic life style and I'm exhausted

I understand all this, too. When you were a little boy you believed the things your father taught you about yourself. You had no choice then, because you were dependent on him and your mother for everything. That little boy has never really gone away, and he still thinks his father must have been right even though your adult self knows better. So it's the abused little boy who feels like a failure, not the adult you.

As far as I know you've had a good job for years, which means your employers and co-workers think better of you. They probably think better of you than you think of yourself.

I am sending you a great big hug, from someone who understands what it is to have an abusive parent.

First of all thanks for the compliments and hug that boosted my morale when I'm about to enter a problematic to some degree night thanks. I think too that my father is the reason for all my suffering he enjoys to see me in trouble and depressed spent all his life to ruin mine. Indeed having such a father isn't usual and caused deep problems for the growing child. Anyways I have some visible anxiety tonight like something bad is going to happen god save us and ucf

I agree with what you know about your father. When little children are loved, they know it and they grow up believing the world is a safe place and other people can be trusted. When little children are not loved, they grow up with anxiety, depression, often loneliness and in the end, despair.

Do you still have contact with your father? And is your mother still alive?

Nothing bad is going to happen tonight, my friend. I hope you sleep well and wake up feeling better able to face life.

Thanks as always for the uplifting words they really soothe me. I don't have contact with my father for 7 years I even haven't heard his voice thanks god My mother is alive I talk to her everyday by phone she is problematic to a degree but I like her lately I think I must severely limit contact with her for recovery but I can't manage this she lives in the same house with my father and probably exposed to manipulation by him lately my concern is if she has some negative feelings against me in origin.
In fact my childhood was prolonged by his tactics I was like a child in my 20s that would impair the situation worse

Have you ever talked to a doctor about your parents? And do you have access to counsellors or psychotherapists? It can be very helpful to talk to someone who understands the great harm parents can do.

It's good that you have daily contact with your mother, although it sounds as though she's influenced by your father and that makes it hard for you to talk to her.

In the past it seemed that you were taking various medications that you were buying online, without a diagnosis or prescription. Are you taking anything now?

I talked to a therapist for nearly a year he was a nice guy and was of some help I consider talking to one here too money is a concern do you really recommend? Medication I currently use is by doctor prescribed I take one of them more than doctor knows I also take b complex lecithin and fish oil I think they are safe I drink tons of green tea. I like my mother so much she is a nice mother god help her

desperate788 wrote:do you really recommend?

I think it's important to have someone to talk to, who likes you and understands you. It sounds as though your therapist was a guy like that, but naturally you don't want to and probably can't afford to keep paying him. A good friend is the next best thing and very often better. Do you have such a friend?

I think you probably can't talk to your mother about your father because you don't want to hurt her feelings. Is that right?

Medication I currently use is by doctor prescribed I take one of them more than doctor knows

What's the name of it? Is it helping you? It's probably best to tell your doctor you're taking a double dose.

I also take b complex lecithin and fish oil I think they are safe I drink tons of green tea.

Yes, all of that is safe, although green tea contains some caffeine so it probably doesn't help with your sleep. By the way I always think of you when anyone mentions green tea! I know how much you like it.