Dear reader,
As I have previously posted on this, my girlfriend left me around a month and a half ago.
Honestly I'm not going to bore any of you with the details again as I've already posted it all on here. The latest update is that she told my friend that she left me, mostly because of her depression but a small part was because of us being "too different". We were different, but that certainly didn't change the love I had for her and I know it shouldn't have changed the love she had for me. I guess maybe the depression caused her to.
Anyway, I've come to the conclusion that she's left me because of her depression. I believe her depression has caused her to lose feelings as I can't think of a normal explanation as to why she'd go from, "never liking anyone as much as she loved me", to ending things and actually seeming kinda happy after. I don't believe the excuse "we were too different".
Anyway that has been the latest update to what has happened. I've basically been in no contact to her. I like to think she'll realise eventually what mistake she made and that maybe she'll get better but she's been depressed for 4 years, has had treatment and medication and is only 19, so I don't have much hope.
I've come to more or less accept that this break up has had nothing to do with our relationship and that it has been completely her depression responsible.
When the breakup happened I would've expected that within a month I'd be a better person and healed from the breakup. It is now a little short of two months and I am so down. The only time I'm better is when I'm out with friends and I actually feel slightly happy when I am. As soon as I come home and I'm by myself I feel so isolated and sad. I had maybe a few days where I was thinking so positively and then for some reason I woke up feeling terrible. This has lasted the past 4 days and I feel there is no way out, even when seeing friends. I broke down Infront of my mum a couple nights ago as she asked me what was wrong and I replied with tears saying I just want to be happy. I have not cried in a long time.
I currently feel so lonely. My mum mentioned seeing a doctor but I find that stupid as I am not mentally ill, I'm just grieving a lot and I have hope that I won't be in this state much longer. She said to me that if I don't get over my down soon I'll fall into something even worse. This terrifies me. I've heard stories of people who have gone through what I have and a year later they are still feeling the same way I do. I'm already almost 2 months in and I'm no better. Being like this for a year scares me so much. I've tried what everyone tells you to do: "think positive", "exercise", "hang out with friends" etc etc. Is there actually anyway I'll get over this ? I know there'll be days where I feel much better and I'll feel like I don't even care about her. But I'll wake up another day and go into another low. Some are worse than others.
I feel so lost. Before all of this i promise you I was healthy. I was not like this. I did not overthink everything. I did not obsess over anything. I was happy.
I'd also like to thank the user Bowler. If you're reading this, You've helped me a lot through this and you're one of the rate great people left.
Anyway, this has just been an update I guess. If anyone has anything to add to help then please do.