by Tony Raine » Mon Jun 13, 2005 9:28 pm
hello, my name is Tony, and I just registered for this site. I am having a hard time dealing with my anger when I get into arguements with my fiance. I am never violent (I've only hit one person in my life, when I was 10, and it was just to defend myself). When we get into arguements, it escalates quickly and we start yelling at each other and I usually start cussing a lot. I know this does not help the situation, but I dont know how to stop. Our fights are usually caused by something little, but we are both too stubborn and inexpereinced to know how to solve them. Any suggestions? I have been trying lately to just have some alone time to cool off when I get really mad, but she always wants to talk about it right then and there. she doesn't let me leave and blocks my way when i try to leave the house and go for a walk, lock myself in a room, etc. this makes me feel trapped and makes my anger rise even more. is my method of cooling off by myself a good idea? or should i try to talk it out then?