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by Tony Raine » Mon Jun 13, 2005 9:28 pm
hello, my name is Tony, and I just registered for this site. I am having a hard time dealing with my anger when I get into arguements with my fiance. I am never violent (I've only hit one person in my life, when I was 10, and it was just to defend myself). When we get into arguements, it escalates quickly and we start yelling at each other and I usually start cussing a lot. I know this does not help the situation, but I dont know how to stop. Our fights are usually caused by something little, but we are both too stubborn and inexpereinced to know how to solve them. Any suggestions? I have been trying lately to just have some alone time to cool off when I get really mad, but she always wants to talk about it right then and there. she doesn't let me leave and blocks my way when i try to leave the house and go for a walk, lock myself in a room, etc. this makes me feel trapped and makes my anger rise even more. is my method of cooling off by myself a good idea? or should i try to talk it out then?
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by gull2516 » Tue Jun 14, 2005 9:42 pm
Hello Toney,
Welcome to the forum
Your problem is not unusual. It happens to every one of us at some time. Whenever you experience anger, take 2 minutes to express it. First of all, watch your moods. Identify your anger. Try to identify your anger level and tell yourself that you are angry. This will solve 50% problems. Just put off an argument if possible.
Another aspect is, accepting other person unconditionally. Unconditional acceptance is love. Love your partner for as she is.
Try to take care of your partner’s emotions. Take responsibility of taking care of your partner’s emotions. Understand it, read it and care it.
Take care.
Welcome to the forum
Your problem is not unusual. It happens to every one of us at some time. Whenever you experience anger, take 2 minutes to express it. First of all, watch your moods. Identify your anger. Try to identify your anger level and tell yourself that you are angry. This will solve 50% problems. Just put off an argument if possible.
Another aspect is, accepting other person unconditionally. Unconditional acceptance is love. Love your partner for as she is.
Try to take care of your partner’s emotions. Take responsibility of taking care of your partner’s emotions. Understand it, read it and care it.
Take care.
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