Hi,
I don't know if anyone can help me, I've suffered from depression on and off ever since the age of 16, only just lately it has become alot more frequent and severe and I need to know why. I am happily married and have two lovely children and have every reason to be happy. My parents and sisters are supportive (although I think it is hard for them to understand why I am depressed) and I want for nothing materially. I suffer from very low self-esteem and I never feel good enough and I always feel that I'm a bit stupid compared to other people. I long to get close to people other than my immediate family, although I love my family alot. I need some friends outside the family to talk to but I find it impossible to get close to people in order to develop close friendships, I always have. I developed a friendship on the internet a year ago with a woman who seemed to be really interested in me and what I had to say, we swapped a few gifts,etc, wrote long emails to each other and seemed to really get on well. For the first time in my life I felt a connection to somebody who really seemed on my wavelength. We even shared the same sense of humour. In January (I'm sorry to go on so much) she visited London for the first time (she is American) and we planned to meet up. I was so excited about meeting her, only she didn't bother to call me. She had seemed very excited about meeting me but I have found out now from bitter experience (I won't go into all the details) that she was one of those people that say something that they don;t mean and our 'friendship' meant nothing. Since then I have lost faith in people completely, I want to get close to people but then again I feel utter contempt for everybody I see, I withdraw into myself and think how cruel people can be and is it worth trying to make friends? My depression is like a safety blanket, it is dark and it hides me from reality. While it is there I have an excuse not to get on with feeling the same feelings that normal people feel. It is terrifying yet familiar. Could somebody please tell me how I can find some meaning in my life, it just all seems so worthless and I don't want to go on living. It feels like something is taking over my brain, some sort of demon and I can't think straight. My husband is away for a week at the moment and I am finding it very difficult to cope. I don't work as I have two young children and I think my family don't know how to help as I feel so awkward when I try to explain it all to them, I sound so ungrateful. I am fed up hiding myself away and becoming a nervous wreck everytime someone talks to me. I feel I want to be part of something, I need to contribute to something but I have no idea where to start. I feel like I want to run away from everything, especially the small town in which I live. I'm sorry to go on so much, but this has really helped.