always on a down
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by monitorlizard » Sun Mar 07, 2004 6:49 am
ive suffered with depression for several years, and finally last year felt like I found the meds to help me.I dont get those lowest lows anymore, but a good day for me is not one Id describe as happy, or content, or even keeled. Im always down to varying degrees. I dont have so-called problems to deal with that lots of people do, im financially secure, loving husband, healthy kids, but Im never satisfied. Its not that I want more, I just cant feel like my life is fulfilling or worth while, or meaningful to myself. I think some people are never really "happy" no matter what they have or how great their surroundings. I dont find any joy or pleasure in life. I wait for the days to end, and dread having to face the next one, because it will just be a repeat of all the others. I guess I feel like I made my choices in life, so now I have to live with it, as miserable as it makes me. I have an enviable lifestyle, or so it seems, yet Im tired of it all. Is there any meds to help me be more calm and feel more "normal"?
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by andy » Sun Mar 07, 2004 1:28 pm
Hi monitorlizard, welcome to the forum!
I was wondering if you'd taken the depression learning path because I think this will really help you to understand how you're feeling and what can be done.
Just to focus on the positive for a moment, could you tell us about the times when you do feel pleasure, or even satisfied to a degree, even if only a little more than usual. And what's different about these times?
Best wishes,
Andy.
I was wondering if you'd taken the depression learning path because I think this will really help you to understand how you're feeling and what can be done.
Just to focus on the positive for a moment, could you tell us about the times when you do feel pleasure, or even satisfied to a degree, even if only a little more than usual. And what's different about these times?
Best wishes,
Andy.
- andy
by Jay » Thu Apr 01, 2004 2:38 am
A definition of depression I have heard is that depression is when people create a fantasy of what their lives should be and when they don't meet up to these unrealistic expectations they beat themselves up and be down.
You say you have no reason to be unhappy, yet you are. I feel the main reason here is that you are not truly doing what you want to do. It is likely you have been doing all the "right" things by society by having family etc, but this may not be what you really want in life. Think about what makes you truly happy, what you think about, what makes you smile, and what you talk about the most. These things define your loves and uppermost values. Then try and incorporate these things into your life and don't let anything get in your way. You aren't going to upset anyone, or make them hate you etc these are all just illusions. You will find once you et started you will feel more fulfilled and happier.
I am in the same boat, doing the career and life that I thought everyone expected but I was never happy. I have now defined what I want and am moving towards these goals. I am now more confident and happy because I have a direction.
No drugs can make up for a lack of direction or goals. Go ahead and do this!!
You say you have no reason to be unhappy, yet you are. I feel the main reason here is that you are not truly doing what you want to do. It is likely you have been doing all the "right" things by society by having family etc, but this may not be what you really want in life. Think about what makes you truly happy, what you think about, what makes you smile, and what you talk about the most. These things define your loves and uppermost values. Then try and incorporate these things into your life and don't let anything get in your way. You aren't going to upset anyone, or make them hate you etc these are all just illusions. You will find once you et started you will feel more fulfilled and happier.
I am in the same boat, doing the career and life that I thought everyone expected but I was never happy. I have now defined what I want and am moving towards these goals. I am now more confident and happy because I have a direction.
No drugs can make up for a lack of direction or goals. Go ahead and do this!!
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