I m deeply stuck..Need help!!!

Fear can never bring us happiness. Letting go of fear is possible, here is a video that can help.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSLascx ... verview-vl

thanks for the quick reply.
the video you suggested was good. It also helped a bit.
i know that fear will not bring any good in my life. But the problem is i m just unable to ocercome that.
please suggest me some practical ways or things i must do to solve the problem and relive my life...

I take a holistic view on our quality of life. It all starts with choosing positive thought patterns. You may have heard the saying.

Sow a thought and reap an action
Sow an action and reap a habit
Sow a habit and reap a character
Sow a character and reap a destiny.

Being aware of our thoughts and choosing the next one is a powerful place to start.

Using this approach to the whole of our lives including
Diet
Exercise
Balance between work, rest and play
Personal appearance and living environment
Gratitude
Helping out in our community
Forgiving past hurts
Accepting ourselves and others for who we are.
Trusting our intuition.

All of these will dissolve fear, love is the healing force, more self love means more self appreciation, more self respect, more self approval, it means being our own best friend, with unconditional positive regard and support. It starts with your next thought about yourself. You can stand in front of the mirror every day for ten minutes or more and repeat the following affirmations.

"I am willing to change, I forgive all past hurts and I set myself free from the burden of resentment, I am my own best friend, I deserve happiness just because I exist, I am safe, I am loved"

Try this for at least a month, think "What is the best that can happen?"

Try some activities like team buildings. This will help you build your self-confidence.

I really don't like team building exercises, actually i hate them. I m very bad in those things.

Maybe that will be your challenge. I really don't think that your not able to do it. You have to try.

Hi common_man.

First of all, problem that you have (lack of self-confidence) is common to many people and you don't have to be ashamed of it.

Good news is that there is solution to any problem, but you need to work hard on it.

Your problem didn't get there overnight, so it won't go away overnight either.

But as soon as you build up your confidence you will feel more freedom and you will live happier life.

Fears comes as a lack of knowledge, in your case, lack of knowledge how to deal with people and how to be self-confident.

There are many shy and introvert people who become self-confident because they educate themselves how to do that.

You said that you read a lot about psychology which is good thing. Have you ever read books from introvert people who become happy, successful and self-confident?

For majority of problems that we have there is big chance that someone else had the same problem and successful get rid of it.

For example, I had a fear of public speaking, but that's why I decided to educate myself how to be a good speaker. My fear was result of lack of knowledge. The more I learned and experienced about public speaking the less fear I had about it.

That's the same reason why you should learn more about how to be self-confident. Once when you become self-confident you won't worry anymore if someone is laughing at you or not.

My advice would be to read more personal development books, to attend live workshops and to expose yourself to situation that you are surrounded with people and start implement techniques that you have learned. Solution is not forever stay in the house. Problem won't disappear by itself. It will grow and become bigger if you don't do something immediately.

If you need advice which books to read or where to find free live events let me know.

Hi Eva Lu,

I didn't read the type of books you mentioned. Please tell me some of those.

It's all about how we talk to ourselves, we can choose our next thought.

I think you are driven by your fears of inadequacy.

Solution:

1. Assertiveness Training
2. Read the book: Feel the fear and do it anyway-Susan Jeffers

All the best,

JMD

A while ago, I wanted to hold 1 hour seminars to promote my latest product, but I felt scared. My main worry was what if people asked me a question that I didn't know the answer to. There are several ways to solve this. One way is to throw the question back to the attendees to see if someone knows the answer. Who says you need to know everything.

The second solution is to know more about your field, product or service that you providing. This knowledge will boost your self-confidence and presentation style.

You also attend Toast Masters to learn how to deliver your speech.

Just a few ideas to get you on the way.