i dont like speaking in front of people

hihihihihi how about we make it looks easier..

when you meet new people, all you can do is only smile or say hi right? well I think that's enough. if that new people is a guy then let him be a man its his job to start a conversation with you.. and if that new person are women then let them be more creative hihihihihi its their job to start a conversation with you and make you as their friend.

Oh and about do some things in front of the class, why you didn't like it?
I believe you are gorgeous, so don't be shy... when everyone look at you, it means you are fantastic! specially when you do some things in front of the class

So Cheer Up h16! you can do it! because you are great cheer up!

thanks
smiles

hihihi you smile! looks great!
want to be my friend? please please pleaseeeee hihihihihi

& yes of course

It is a human nature to feel nervous when talking in front of people, even master public speakers feel nervous before addressing an audience. The trick is not to fight this nervousness but rather embrace it. The more we fight this nervousness the more intense it becomes.

Next time you stand in front of people allow yourself to feel nervous and remember that the best public speakers have exactly the same feeling.

Regarding finding something to say in front of new people, I'd say don't push yourself, if you have something to say then say it otherwise just smile and say Hi

I always wanted to find something to say to new people but I found that this habit was putting me under extreme pressure and it increased my nervousness. The moment I decided that it is fine for me not to say anything and just smile and say Hi my nervousness disappeared and I started finding a lot of things to talk about.

yeah i just need to relax more i always say it but as soon as im told we are doing speaking groups work i get worried scared & i hate that feeling :/
i just need to find some way of being able to control it.

i think it will just take some time getting use to all the meeting new people as i just left school starting college & placement work

thanks for all the advice

Hey I have the same problem. Next semester I have to be in a speech communications class and I'm already panicking over it! My voice too goes shakey and weird like, I turn as bright as a Tomato, and my body even start to shake some. I know I'm just suppose to try to not worry about it but that's easier said then done. I need tips on how to not be so nervous when I speak!

that is how i feel lol i hate it i have to do it in mostly all classes & i have 4 classes a day :/

Yeah It is no fun! I'm really getting sick of it! It's soooooo frustrating! I really don't think there is much out there to help us lol which sucks.

And I also have the problem with meeting new people. i just don't know what to say to them. Like i would really like more friends in college but it's so hard! I dont know how to make friends which is really sad sounding =P

i know we will was have to face our fears & speak in front of people. but yeah i think we have to believe in ourselfs to get past it . & i know it sucks i want something that will stop it lol

i have the same i hate meeting new people i just never know what to say all i do is smile. i would love to be able to talk to more people in my class but i cant. & it doesnt sound sad i have the same lol

we are alike

Haha yeah it sounds like we are =]

I guess we just have to put ourselves out there even if it's uncomfortable cause in the end it will probably be the best for us. Even though that is much easier said then done =/

Ah good luck to us!

I teach around 40 public speaking courses a year and there seems to be a secret about public speaking that shouldn't be a secret. It is understanding blank faces.
As a public speaker if we are not careful we carry on using normal conversational skills when we are speaking to a group.
When you have a standard conversation - you normally get nods, smiles, agreements back from the listener however when we speak to a group ALL that changes. All you see is blank faces.
So we start speaking to blank faces and they don't usually smile (at least not very often) or nod their heads (some people will but again not a lot) so we are left struggling with critical thoughts about our performance. We are craving approval clues but blank faces are normal in audience - they are just listening faces.
So try not to read people's faces when you speak publicly because your brain will interpret any sign as negative. Blank faces as just normal faces who are listening in a more passive way. We need to re-train our eyes not to look for approval and not to get so entangled with what we think other people are thinking about us.
Of course there is more to getting your head around public speaking but when I teach public speaking this is the point that helps a lot of people.

Without going into the psychology of the MBTI-type definitions of introvert and extravert, you can bank on about half your audience not being very 'giving' - and perhaps even less so once they're in a group of other people listening to a presentation!

They might not even want to be there, to be honest! Some of them, at least.

Which means that all-told you can expect about 3/4 of your audience to be a bit less 'engaged' than you'd like. You have to be braced for that and not panic, either by withdrawing more yourself or by trying to compensate and becoming more animated.

Stick with your own style!

JohnDawsonBristol wrote:I teach around 40 public speaking courses a year and there seems to be a secret about public speaking that shouldn't be a secret. It is understanding blank faces.
As a public speaker if we are not careful we carry on using normal conversational skills when we are speaking to a group.
When you have a standard conversation - you normally get nods, smiles, agreements back from the listener however when we speak to a group ALL that changes. All you see is blank faces.
So we start speaking to blank faces and they don't usually smile (at least not very often) or nod their heads (some people will but again not a lot) so we are left struggling with critical thoughts about our performance. We are craving approval clues but blank faces are normal in audience - they are just listening faces.
So try not to read people's faces when you speak publicly because your brain will interpret any sign as negative. Blank faces as just normal faces who are listening in a more passive way. We need to re-train our eyes not to look for approval and not to get so entangled with what we think other people are thinking about us.
Of course there is more to getting your head around public speaking but when I teach public speaking this is the point that helps a lot of people.

What John mentions is something I do, and a lot of others do when getting used to public speaking, or speaking in groups. I used to be HORRIBLE with this stuff and I was a SUPER INTROVERT!

I'm not sure if this will be the best advice, but I also throw in little confidence boosters. Not just for myself, but for my audience as they listen to me.

When I speak, I don't just arbitrarily throw out words but I also engage my audience so that they engage me. Little confidence booster.

I do this through hand gestures and movement. Walking around and getting up close to my audience. They come to my terms and I control the room, the room doesn't control me.

Other confidence boosters would be to really hammer in key points to what I'm saying which usually gets a large audience response.

Unfrotunately I'm not a very comedic person, but I am able to get people to laugh. Which is a tremendous confidence booster.

I think throwing in confidence boosters will ease up the tension for you and make you a lot more comfortable and a lot more natural while you're up there speaking.