parents don't understand

Postby hanisahh » Mon Sep 04, 2017 5:55 am

so a few days ago, my parents wanted to go out but i didn't have the mood so i said i didn't want to come and my mom took my phone and checked it. i'm not sure if i'm going through depression but i don't feel like myself those days and i would vent to two of my classmates behind me in school and we decided to make a group chat and share our problems. i'm glad that i didn't share everything there or my parents would know it all and say that i'm just being ungrateful and that i'm too young to have problems. i'm 14 btw. after my mom saw the group chat, she came in my room, beating me with a hanger and calling me crazy. i was already in tears when she took my phone because i knew what would come next. they said that i'm being selfish and ungrateful because they provide me with everything like school money and a room etc. they forced me to tell them my problems but one of them is having trust issues so it pressured me a lot but i didn't say anything. i was crying non stop and my whole body was numb i couldn't even move move my fingers. there was once where i was accused and blamed for something i didn't do and i had the same numb feeling so when this happened it reminded me and made everything worse. i rarely have suicidal thoughts but at that point of time i felt like running off to the kitchen or to the roof. in the group chat, i said "sh** mom" but it was out of anger and my mom gave me a tight slap. after all that, they took my computer and went outside to further check my phone. my friend in the chat said ''i want to slap my parents with my report book'' and i just laughed but when my parents saw that, my mom came in my room and took my report book and slap me in the face more than 5 times. she then pulled my hair and i screamed and she told me to shut up or she'll kick me or something but it was so painful to the point i screamed my lungs out. she punched me in the head and i laid on my bed and she kicked me on my back several times. my father stopped her and they went off into their bedroom. moments later, my father came in my room and talked nicely like as if nothing happened and it isn't his first time doing that so i felt like he's a hypocrite. one moment angry and all in front of my mom but nice when my mom's away as if to make me not have any hate against him. my mom said ''i give you three days to think if you still want to stay here or we can send you away to another family because i'm tired of your sh**'' she says this almost all the time when she's angry so..

there was once where my father called me all sort of names and that my friends don't deserve someone who only thinks about herself. now that they're off to work, i took my computer back. i don't know how to last for another week until school reopens. oh and btw my parents like to check my phone whenever they want and then message my friends until they all block me on social media. my mom went off to block everyone on snapchat and i lost streaks with a lot of people. she also unfollowed everyone on instagram and check my dms :|
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Postby Candid » Mon Sep 04, 2017 8:12 am

I'm so sorry you're in this situation, hanisahh. It sounds as though your parents have a lot of problems. Not only are they unable to give you the care you need and deserve, they also seem to be taking it out on you.

Just so you know:
1) Looking at your private correspondence is wrong
2) Hitting you is wrong, the more so with a weapon such as a hanger
3) Calling you ungrateful, crazy, selfish etc. is wrong
4) Implying that you owe them something is wrong... they've got it the wrong way round
5) False accusations and blaming are wrong
6) Interfering in your friendships is wrong
7) Punching and kicking you is wrong
8 ) Pretending nothing's happened is wrong
9) Threatening to kick you out or send you away is wrong

All of these things are so much worse when it's your parents who are doing it. They're the people who are supposed to love and protect you. Fourteen is hard enough for girls, with all the hormonal stuff kicking in. All this abuse -- and it is abuse -- puts you in a truly horrible situation.

Please tell me there's a school counsellor, a trustworthy adult relative or a kind neighbour you would feel able to talk to. You're welcome to show them my reply here. Failing that, there might be a child abuse hotline you can call when it's safe to do so. I know you would be worried -- with good reason! -- about it being bungled in a way that leaves you worse off than you are now, but people there are trained to manage difficult situations like this. https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/

I want to add, the group chat with your two classmates sounds like a Very Good Thing. These two are likely to be lifelong friends and support.

Big hug from me, sweetheart.
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Postby Candid » Fri Sep 08, 2017 6:50 am

This is a better one: https://www.childhelplineinternational. ... e-network/ and look for your country on the map.

No one can help you here on the forum, but trained, professionals who are knowledgeable and have your best interests at heart.
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Postby imasadhuman » Fri Sep 15, 2017 3:32 pm

What your parents did to you is abuse and you need to imediately contact authorities. Do it now before you get seriously injured. Im also 14 and when i was in foster care and when i was living with my biological mother i was abused. I now have permanent injuries that will never go away. I am deaf in one ear. I have a dent in the back of my head. I cant do gym at school because if i put much strain on my ankles they will collapse. And much more, because i didnt tell. You need to tell now. Also about how you are feeling. I think you have depression. I do and I understand. If you wanna talk to me about stuff since we relate to each other my email is lardich12@gmail. com
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