I have no life because i always get banned on and offline

Hi Mustafa,

Yes, I am familiar with the feeling of being banned on line. Yes, often one can avoid being banned by being scrupulously polite, but in many cases some of the Forums one will go to on line have some commercial connection – they only exist to push some product they are tacitly sponsoring, or they have some Social, Religious or Political Agenda. If such is the case, and you consistently disagree with their program, you will get banned. After all, there is no Public Review of such matters. Freedom of Speech only pertains to the Government, but private Society can be as tyrannical as it wishes to be.

Oh, Mustafa, you say you are diagnosed with Asperger’s. Well, you DO seem to have trouble communicating, and so I shouldn’t doubt you on this point, but, I’ve heard it said that at least a lot of the ordinary Autism Diagnoses are inflated due to the fact that when the Medical Staff is filling out the Insurance Forms, so they can get paid, well, they have to diagnose Something… Anything… they just can’t leave that space blank (they should make up a Mental Condition where the primary Symptom is “Just Wanted to Come in and speak with a Health Professional in regards to Life’s Little Problems”, and if they did that there would be so less people running around now who think they have Autism or are Bi-Polar or whatever the Condition Du Jour happens to be.

Now, in regards to what might be a real problem with you being so socially offensive that you consistently get tossed out of places, well, I wish you could describe some of the typical circumstances. Do you get really Loud? Do you cuss and swear? Well, probably. That is what gets a lot of people Banned and Tossed Out. In such a case you might have a problem in regulating your Cortisol --- that is a Brain Hormone that causes people to be Loud and Aggressive (the Brain THINKS the person needs to get into an actual Life or Death Fight and so it hits the Panic Button, so to speak). Anyway, you can Control your Cortisol if you can remember just one neat trick – whenever your jaw muscles tighten or your teeth clench, simply relax your mouth muscles. Open your mouth, and breath through your mouth. It seems that since the Jaw Muscles are closest to the part of the Brain that Releases the Cortisol, those are the first muscles to experience the Cortisol. By instantly Relaxing when you feel the tightness set in, it SENDS a message to the Brain that the Panic Button was a False Alarm. But you don’t have a second to waste. Enough Cortisol to get you really excited can be released in just a few seconds. So INSTANTLY relax your jaw whenever you feel your teeth clench and then just breath through your mouth for a while.

Mustafa, let me know what you think.

Yes this makes sense.

When i get banned it is sometimes because i don't fit the forums agenda, sometimes because they don't fit to mine. I usually am a nice guy, but the forums members works as a 'flying monkey', or it could really be a flying monkey, and then comes the bully agressive moderator. It escalates from there.

Everyone wants to be right, and i was young and inexperienced before.

I do certainly have Asperger traits.

Thank you

Hi Mustafa, Well, we are not finished yet, are we? How about that advice about that Cortisol Stuff and you relaxing your jaw muscles whenever they tighten up? That will keep you from "losing your temper" as they say. If you can say you will remember that, then I know that I did something to help you.

And, yes, you seem like a very well mannered person. I am too, but I used to let those Moderators get under my skin too. In large part that is what get me serious into the study of Anger Management. At one time I could say I had read ALL the books, but then Anger Management got really popular and there was an avalanche of new books. If you want me to recommend a few good titles for you to read , I could do that for you.

I got that about Cortisol, thank you for slowing me down. What is Cortisol exactly, i could of course google it.

Before i had 'desire' (I did mastrubate initially once a week, then upto 3 times a week), i was blind but read alot, i didn't get worried that I wasted energy because conserving semen and body fluids is the best thing you could do to preserve your energy level, to remain blind but like go into a blind (you improve your balance when you take away your sight) swordsman frenzy.

They gradually gave more diagnoses, and burnt me out, meticulously, until my reading and semen capasity was greatly reduced. And i have no friends online or offline, no energy, and like left in the darkness while they have me lawfully under compulsion.

How can law use compulsion? It can when it is inadequate and inapproperiate. The world is screwed. They are holding onto power, like my pussy biased superiors, how can i be calm? I have 2 choises the first i stick with what is right until i'm broken and dead/philosophically dead, or two surrender to the evil world.

Those who are slain in war are honored by Gods and men - Heraclitus

Hi Mustafa,

Yes, you could google "Cortisol" but in regards to Anger Management and Cortisol, well, this site right here is the best source of information. Just read down through the Forum and see what I have told other people about Cortisol. If you can understand what that is all about, and are able to put it to work for you, then you will have a lot less issues with your Temper and alienating people because of it.

Oh, about Sex taking away energy. Well, if you are young and healthy and are eating right, your body will have Energy to Burn. the Idea that Sex depletes energy comes from Old Men and from Societies where malnutrition was normal. Yes, when everyone always is on the verge of getting sick and dying, then you can say that Sex would be an expenditure of precious energy. But if you are eating and sleeping well, then there is really not a problem with sex.

About sex. I'm such a malnutrient person, and under compulsion out of balance / in the light i mastrubate alot. Ejaculations is a normal natural way for pleasure. Another way for achieving pleasure while maintaining energy level, is from mastrubating but before climax you stop, your penis gets so hard its another form of painful pleasure. All good. Sexual abstinence makes you go wild, you are then not weak.

Mustafa wrote:About sex. I'm such a malnutrient person, and under compulsion out of balance / in the light i mastrubate alot. Ejaculations is a normal natural way for pleasure. Another way for achieving pleasure while maintaining energy level, is from mastrubating but before climax you stop, your penis gets so hard its another form of painful pleasure. All good. Sexual abstinence makes you go wild, you are then not weak.

Hi Mustafa,

Well, I guess we are all young once. As you get older, your perspective on sex changes. Lets compare it to food. People think that eating is pleasurable, but the times it is the most "pleasurable" have been when eating broke a fast, that is, after we have been very hungry. Eating was only satisfying a very demanding appetite -- it is the pleasurable sensation we get when we stop beating our heads with a hammer. Well, wouldn't it be better to not have an appetite at all? ... to not feel enslaved by some incorrigible need? Sex is really just an appetite. Perhaps to learn your lesson about the nonsense about sex being pleasurable you need to have an affair with some insatiable woman. No matter how beautiful she is, it will soon dawn on you that sex is a tiring and even embarrassing exercise. You'll find yourself mumbling words like "Damn, not again!" And then as you get older and find your sexual appetite foisting less and less demand upon you, you see it as a relief... one less thing to worry about all the time. But, yes, some fools get addicted to sex, both men and women, and still want to have sex although their bodies' don't signal any appetite for it at all. they complain about their Lack of Sex Drive as though it is a bad thing. Many men, though not all, are willing to say good riddance to their sex drives, but they are locked into miserably demanding marriages where their wives make them go to the doctor to complain about "erectile dysfunction" (well, none of these guys have "erectile dysfunction" when they are chasing the young women around at work), and so these poor old men get prescriptions for those hideous little Hard On Pills (the Pharmaceutical Industry has not yet cured Cancer, or gotten a safe, effective and reliable Pain Pill, but they have CURED the limp dick... isn't it great to know that our Society knows what its priorities are?). But, yes, many aging men tell me that their wives make them take those Hard On Pills and that it is a painful and reluctant Duty to keep their marriages together that they make themselves go through the motions to please their shallow stupid wives.

So, yes, Mustafa, it is interesting speaking to a man yet so young that he still thinks sex is pleasurable.

Its a strange thing. Ejaculations are initially pleasurable, but when one gets older he says, like you said, good riddance. But i'm talking about letting the sexual frustration build up since puberty, and drawing pleasure (as if pleasure is a normal thing) from hard a hardened dick that gets harder because of sexual abstinence. Making it explosively pleasurable, because blood flows into the private part here.

I haven't talked to many, but those i talked to haven't experienced pleasure from a hard dick. Like enjoying the chase not satisfying your hunger straight away, as non penetrative sex.

Mustafa, This is an Anger Management Forum. Don't you think that talking about sex here is a little creepy, unless we have some clear idea about how it applies to Anger Management.

Freud said (psychoanalysis) sex is related and the opposit of Anger/agressiveness. Eros and Thanatos (hence Thanos18). This IMO shouldn't mean being sexually active or passive is the opposit of death (Cortisol/Thanatos). DrPsychFeels is into something, but this is dangerous, it is easier to say we abolish Cortisol and Death Penalty.

Mustafa wrote:Freud said (psychoanalysis) sex is related and the opposit of Anger/agressiveness. Eros and Thanatos (hence Thanos18). This IMO shouldn't mean being sexually active or passive is the opposit of death (Cortisol/Thanatos). DrPsychFeels is into something, but this is dangerous, it is easier to say we abolish Cortisol and Death Penalty.

Hi Mustafa, When talking about Freud, one must remember that in his entire clinical life he never conducted the first clinical study. He was just guess and theorizing the whole time. I honestly believe he mixed SEX into everything in order to Shock and Tantalize Viennese Society. I believe the only goal of his life was to draw very high fees from very rich clients and to be the highest paid Star on the lecture circuits. Besides, his Work has not stood up well. Nobody today is a Freudian Psychoanalysis. Accept as a curiosity of History, they should stop teaching him. He is a reminder of the time when Psychiatrists didn't care a fig about data and empirical objectives and stuff like cure rates.

Now about DrPsychFeels, I believe his clinical philosophy can be summed up in "go ahead and rage against the world. Express your Feelings. It will make you feel better. Controlling oneself is another name for Repression, Bottling up your Evil will make you be sick and unhealthy. So let your Evil Shine, and though the World will think you wicked, one day when you die you will go to Hell in perfect health, etc, etc. You know, I hope DrPsychFeels has children. when he finds himself living in close quarters with the Evil his clinical philosophy creates, then he might change his tone, and have an epiphany in regards to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Sex and agression makes up warriors (not just sex). Civilians have an entirely different worlds. I don't know when 'challenges' were banned, maybe 1800. Before however people would die for honor (imaginary word, or actually is sex) therefore Freud is not relevant anymore.

Mustafa wrote:Sex and agression makes up warriors (not just sex). Civilians have an entirely different worlds. I don't know when 'challenges' were banned, maybe 1800. Before however people would die for honor (imaginary word, or actually is sex) therefore Freud is not relevant anymore.

Hi Mustafa,

Duelings and Challenges were a vestige of barbarian bandit societies (they called themselves 'warriors', but people understood them as bandits). Paradoxically (in terms of Greatness of Soul), these bandits, through nothing but force of violence, became the Aristocracies, that is the big land owners, since they stole the land. Well, from their old bandit days they remembered that all disputes in status and position in society could be and even should be settled by violence. Anyway, Mustafa, don't make the mistake of idealizing such bandits and their barbaric bandit ways. Many Civilizations have established true ideals we can live by. Why not focus on those.

And, yes, Freud, that fraud, is not relevant anymore.

Theres a verse in the Quran which paraphrased says: ....So give permission (O disbelievers) for a war from Allah and his Prophet.

The Prophet and Allah are politely asking for a war against you, a Dueling, you only have to accept since you people are against us. And even so he compassionately asks for it and you have to give him permission to kill you. That doesn't mean he is afraid of your laws. And Abraham the father of religion came from the worlds first Civilization. The first Civilization to have laws, nevers known to mankind before as they were presented.

HOWEVER, many 'warriors' are bandits but not all. Real warrioirs usually win, however they are not 'cowards'.

Peace