worry I make my mother sorry

he is so so.. have known me well due to time we made sessions..

Yes, it's always easier to stay with the one you know than to find a new one. I have some questions about your guy.

1) Do you have a time-limited contract with him?
2) Have you and he agreed on issues you want to work on?
3) Do you feel better after talking to him?
4) Is he charging you, and if so, do you think you're getting good value?

no limited time contract, ım telling my concerns he talks for half a hour, ı dont feel anything change after talking to him, his session are cheap regard to tehrapy prices in turkey so ı may say ım getting good value. He is coming to izmir 17th 18th of november we will make a face to face sessions..

It sounds like he cares. That's good.

ı hope he cares ı dont want to waste money

That's where you might do better to find someone you can see face-to-face.

So I must change my therapist? Start all over again? That will be hard to tell therapist I don't want to work with him..

It's always your decision, desperate. If you like your therapist and don't need to be in the same room with him, why change? I'd like to know he cares about you and has some idea how to help you, though.

I'm just so..can't reject people.

desperate788 wrote:I'm just so..can't reject people.

That is taking these things personally, but being in the other guy's shoes.

You wouldn't be rejecting "him", you would be leaving a situation that no longer is of service to you. Growing requires that you leave a situation that is no longer of service to you. To stay, is to stagnate. Life is not stagnation; death is.

Depersonalize this situation, explain that this doesn't work for you anymore, and find a therapist or counselor who is a better fit. I'm sure he/she would understand—they are in the business of psychology, you know.

I just can't do it..how to say that?

desperate788 wrote:I just can't do it..how to say that?

You are presently so full of fear, that it is almost unreal.

That (overcoming fear) seems to be what the Wim Hof Method offers people, people who make a Commitment to overcome their fears. Go there. Please.

Heard somewhere at board about win how method. What was it? Go where? You are mysterious.

desperate788 wrote:Heard somewhere at board about win how method. What was it? Go where? You are mysterious.

I mentioned it in one of your threads. You're going to have to do the work to find it. No one is going to help you beyond what you are willing to do for yourself. God is not going to help you unless you do the inner work of allowing the good stuff (love, lightness, etc.) in and blocking the door to fear.

I'm halfway through this video (37 minutes), and you'd do well to listen to it, and listen well. Click here. There is a multitude of videos and text pages on the internet spreading the same or very similar message. You've got to do for yourself. Period. No matter how kind people are with you, if you don't pull yourself together eventually, they will leave. It's just plain how life works.

Good luck, again.

Do I have cancer?