Am i normal?!?(emotional sex problem)!

**Posts:** 1 · by **koolak** » Wed Jul 06, 2011 10:16 pm

Hello...
there is something with me that really made me nervous...its about my attraction with another sex...i am male, 20 years old and usually male sex must be attracted by female sex...which im not...and i get attracted with some people who are male....as i know, i am healthy, i grew up in a good family, my father and mother care about me alot, so i dont see anything wrong with parents in my life...
but as i remember from when i can(child hood) i really were curious about some type of men...i cannot say im gay because there are rare type of them who can attract me like hell...other men ,i strongly have no emotions and am fully normal and dont think of being anything more than friends and it is healthy...and i see it very very nasty to actually see them naked.
women, i can say i like them alot more than men but less than those type of men who i get attracted to...i can say i some times get attracted (in very low pressure) and it lasts maybe for some hours and goes away...i can see myself have sex life with them (no nasty feelings) but i know that i wont get satisfied myself from having sex with them....
those type of men which i told ya, i can have sex and really really enjoy...which is nasty for others i know but not for me...
its really killing me, i wanna be normal, i hate it to see im not attracted to women mostly because of my religion and also what ever i see (good family, nature like animals, and etc) every thing is telling me to be normal and have the other sex partner...i have some experiences in falling in love with some men like my teachers or actors and that lasted for months and even half of year or a year....and yet its not fully passed but its not strong anymore...
how can i be normal?and should i be normal?will it cause mentally damage?
if it is not normal, i really like to fight with it, and the reason that i didnt do it was that i was afraid of hurting myself....thanks.

**Posts:** 32 · by **bobrittany** » Thu Jul 07, 2011 2:37 am

I think it helps to think of sexuality on a gray scale, rather than in terms of black and white. All people fall somewhere along the scale, one side being completely straight, the other side being completely gay, and endless possibilites in between.

You may even be closer to one side of the scale at one period in your life, and closer to the other side in another time of your life.

Its possible that you may be 60% straight and 40% gay. That would explain why you are attracted to females, but are attracted to males as well. Or maybe its the other way around. Only you can answer that question.

The important thing is that you let yourself be attracted to who you want to be attracted to, and experiment with having sex with both sexes, if thats what you choose to do. After that you will probably have a better idea of which you prefer.

**Posts:** 691 · by **Akiva** » Thu Jul 14, 2011 3:21 am

koolak wrote:Hello...
there is something with me that really made me nervous...its about my attraction with another sex...i am male, 20 years old and usually male sex must be attracted by female sex...which im not...and i get attracted with some people who are male....as i know, i am healthy, i grew up in a good family, my father and mother care about me alot, so i dont see anything wrong with parents in my life...
but as i remember from when i can(child hood) i really were curious about some type of men...i cannot say im gay because there are rare type of them who can attract me like hell...other men ,i strongly have no emotions and am fully normal and dont think of being anything more than friends and it is healthy...and i see it very very nasty to actually see them naked.
women, i can say i like them alot more than men but less than those type of men who i get attracted to...i can say i some times get attracted (in very low pressure) and it lasts maybe for some hours and goes away...i can see myself have sex life with them (no nasty feelings) but i know that i wont get satisfied myself from having sex with them....
those type of men which i told ya, i can have sex and really really enjoy...which is nasty for others i know but not for me...
its really killing me, i wanna be normal, i hate it to see im not attracted to women mostly because of my religion and also what ever i see (good family, nature like animals, and etc) every thing is telling me to be normal and have the other sex partner...i have some experiences in falling in love with some men like my teachers or actors and that lasted for months and even half of year or a year....and yet its not fully passed but its not strong anymore...
how can i be normal?and should i be normal?will it cause mentally damage?
if it is not normal, i really like to fight with it, and the reason that i didnt do it was that i was afraid of hurting myself....thanks.

There is nothing wrong with you. It is OK to like men; it is OK to like women; it is OK to like them both; it is OK to prefer one more strongly than the other; it is OK to prefer them equally; etc, it goes on and on.

Is there some more specific reason that you feel upset by this, or confused by this, or uncomfortable with this - with seeing yourself as being allowed to feel for men or women, with varying degrees of preference between them?

Wishing you well.

Peace.

**Posts:** 5 · by **Peeveanioporp** » Sun Jul 17, 2011 9:46 am

I not in any degree ordered honestly noticed, tbh, it's reasonable a district of me. I guesstimate in theory, I confidence in in choice, but in practice it didn't lather me.

It seems the funereal bands are sized differently from the grab some shut-eye of the doctor reprimand! on the gunmetal i ordered, the menacing bands now okay, but the put of the dress went on too easily.

**Posts:** 14 · by **mynameisdark** » Thu Jul 28, 2011 4:35 pm

u r just 20. Perhaps time will tell.
Some creative/artistic people are richly imaginative and tends to go for something new and fresh. it's not abnormal, maybe just a bit unusual or eccentric so to say...

**Posts:** 10 · by **Derelle** » Sun Sep 11, 2011 2:36 pm

Just enjoy your life while you have it and try not to let all those crazy thoughts go to your head. It sounds like you want to be gay but not sure of the social stigma or the way people will look at you, like family, friends, associates. If you are gay, just allow yourself to be that. That way you won't end up breaking some girl's heart because you felt like you had to appear straight. If you are attracted to men, then from what I know, you are gay or at least have gay tendencies.

**Posts:** 42 · by **BrentB** » Tue Oct 11, 2011 1:29 am

Here's my advice for what its worth.

Right now you're confused and thats 100% OK. Just accept the fact that you are confused and don't be in a huge hurry to figure everything out.

Also, you gotta realize that there is NOTHING wrong with you. You like who you like and it's totally normal.

Peace,

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