My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half and we have had our ups and downs throughout. I recently used his computer and found out that he has an account on a dating site and he was looking at casual encounters on craigslist.
He did not have a good explanation for me, and I really don't know the extent of his involvement in these things. He claims that he was looking at pictures on Craigslist, and that he just wanted to see what is out there on the dating sites. I watched him delete his account, but I know he can just reactivate it when I am not around.
He says he is insecure and he did not elaborate. Based on that, I have looked on the internet and found that people with low self esteems sometimes look on these sites to have their ego boosted. My concern is that I don't know if he has taken this to the next level. I checked the site and he did not have any messages, but he may have deleted them from somewhere else while I was on his computer.
I have problems with it because of our age difference. I am more than 10 years older than him, and he was looking at girls younger than he is. I just can't compete with that. Nice, young, fit girls who want nothing more than sex.
He says he loves me, and he let me go through his phone text messages, pictures, emails, everything. The only thing I found was a picture of 2 girls kissing that he claims was years ago. He could be lying about that too. My trust in him has been damaged, and I am imagining the worst situations with everything. It does seem that I am the one who is worrying about this, while he just wants everything to be "normal".
Is this something you have dealt with? Can you get past it, without knowing the truth about everything?
I admit that I have looked too when we were fighting, but I never actually set up an account. Things have not been perfect between us and we both feel the distance as it is somewhat long distance.