Why is life without love so hard?

"Love tends to come out of the blue when you are least expecting it. "


TBH this has never been the case for me, you have to get out there and grab love by its balls and make it happen..

Zuriel,

I just wanted to say your concept of the love tank is not only appropriate but right on target.
That happened to me!!

My mother passed away when I was 16 after a horrible illness of 2 years, my father became separated from me, we lost our house and everything else in time, and I spent many years working hard in college when all I wanted was my tank to be refilled all the while (happiness, love, *support, peace, normalcy). I didn't find anything before college, I was too busy during college, and I just 2 years ago finished my Masters, and so after graduating, I still have not found it. Can you believe such a thing? I cannot. But I know that I will. So, to answer your question, by all means it can be refilled...just provided that you have the right Fuel! Or, as perhaps in my case, that you have the proper Opportunities to find said fuel. Not be too busy etc. or to be around the appropriate people...

SunshineP

Funkymonkey,

Grabbing love by the balls...HA! What fitting a metaphor.

Hi freedom80,
It's beacuse you always need some one to share your emotions and feelings.
Either you are sad or happy you need someone to share your expression and if that one person is missing you feel you lost everything.

Erskine wrote:Hi freedom80,
It's beacuse you always need some one to share your emotions and feelings.
Either you are sad or happy you need someone to share your expression and if that one person is missing you feel you lost everything.

Totally agree here, The idea of companionship in human culture is rather bit selfish,
You always need someone to share your views with. Share your problems & downs with, & you almost always expect the person to support you in that time. Its better because people would be uncomfortable to beg for help woudnt they? & why do couples break up most of times or fall out of love? its when that feeling of support or compassion is gone.
We share feelings just unconsciously in the hope that someone just might be able to help us from the problems or just make our joy better.

freedom80 wrote: Why is society become this way?

Because we're all scared and we can't trust each other any more. The waiters at your local restaurant will smile at you and call you by name until the day you turn up with no money, then they'll send you away. To a lesser extent all our relationships are like this. As long as you have something the other person wants, it works. Slip on the banana skin of depression, homelessness, joblessness or whatever, and pretty soon you'll find you're on your own.

So we have to be competitive and upbeat and look out for number one, because experience has shown us no one else will. People with strong family connections will always be okay; anyone trying to get through the world with no solid backing needs to be very strong and has to somehow keep going even when the tank's empty. Especially when the tank's empty.

There's a book called You Can't Afford The Luxury of a Negative Thought by John-Roger and Peter McWilliams. The title alone says it all. Negative thinking is an indulgence and a very costly one.

Life is a confidence trick, a process of self-hypnosis. Another good book title is Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway. Understand that we're all scared; it helps a lot. Let's face it, we're on a rotating ball whirling through empty space and none of us knows what's up ahead. The very basis of life is insecurity and uncertainty.

Sit with that, make peace with it... and then you can go on thrashing around in whatever way you've chosen to get your learning.