Help and Advice Required Please

Hi Amir

What is happening to you is a normal response to a situation that you find more threatening than you need to.
Basically it sounds like you are entering the fight and flight response at a time that is inconveinient to say the least.

When someone enters the fight and flight response a number of things start to happen.
Because the body is readying itself for an attack, adrenalin is pumped through the body which can have the effect of making you shake, especally if there is no need to run or fight.
And do we need to talk or swallow when we are running from an hungry lion?

As we weren't always at the top of the food chain, the brain needs this reaction to keep the body alive. There are many other effects that this response can have, and one of those is to vomit or go to the bathroom, it may seem insignificant, but even these responses are the brains way of keeping you alive,
1) to make you lighter so you can move quicker.
2)to make you less appealing to whatever is trying to eat you.

Unfortunatley the brain for all its brilliance, has not yet caught up to the 21st century.

Any good therapist would be happy to help you re-set that response, so it only goes off when you really need it. All you would need is a few examples of times when you have felt uncomfortable when you didn't want to.

Until that time maybe you can write this down, and carry it around with you, as it will give you that control back in difficult situations. A.W.A.R.E

A) accept what is happening.
W)watch the effect that that feeling is having(shaking, ect)
A)act normal, don't let that feeling think it has the better of you.
R)repeat, if necessary
E)expect the best

All the best
Mark