Hankjohnson321 wrote:I am emotionally detached I have been distancing myself further away from others more and more for almost a decade at this point I'm considering cutting all ties with people who think they're my friends and family but I feel nothing for and that concerns me. I dont date and remain celibate because I'm afraid that I cant give someone what they deserve or my idealistic view of what they would deserve in a relationship. I have very low self-esteem because I hold myself to the highest standards imaginable.i feel that I have a good handle on what is going on with me, but I either dont know how or dont have the will to do anything about it any suggestions are appreciated.
Sounds like the "cut-off" is emotional. That is, possibly you're not connecting with people at the emotional level and that creates isolation. I came to see emotional communication is huge in importance (unfortunately). How is your emotional reaction? Do you smile when others make jokes and do you feel tuned into their mentality? Or do you feel sort of alienated and not knowing how to engage? Personally, I do not. Emotional intelligence is very low in my case but it took me years to figure out exactly what takes place during social interaction. Such as eye expression, facial expression and how easily people can smile.