Stay or go?

Do I accept the new job (if offer is made)?

Yes because your living situation is untenable
0
No votes
Yes because at least there's no questions about what you'll be doing in the new job
0
No votes
Yes because your boss is not likely to change
0
No votes
No and continue living in caravan park till funding position known. If successful then apply for a lease.
0
No votes
No and apply for a lease straight away--don't worry about the funding
0
No votes
 
Total votes : 0

Postby glache » Fri Apr 18, 2014 6:50 pm

I applied for a job and they'll get back to me after Easter. Usually the waiting time doesn't bother me, I just go about my daily business. However, this particular one is. The reason is that I'm not sure I would accept the job offer (if successful). It's affecting me to the point I'm having dreams about my current job (and I *never* dream about work). Why the doubts? Because one of the major bad aspects of the current job has resolved since I decided to apply (which was about a month ago). That aspect was bitchiness, dogmatisim and bad gossip on the part of a senior colleague.

However, all the other bad aspects remain (of the job and personal too) and I don't know if it's worth sticking around to see if they'll resolve:

- I'm houseless. I had a major fight with my live-in landlady and decided to leave. She was my first landlady so I had no reference, so I moved into a caravan park (which I have no problems with, it's very family orientated and there's no weirdos). That, together with the politics, would've been a dealbreaker, except that since then a friend has suggested that my boss lie for me and say I was staying in temp accommodation the entire time. So that technically can be resolved,but I'm not sure if it's even worth applying for a lease considering the rest:
- Lack of funding for what I came for. They're in the process of applying for funding but we won't know till July at the earliest. If funding was even successful (the impression my boss gave was there's only 3-4 positions open annually for a division of >1000 people), it wouldn't kick in till at least Sept
- Then, even if funding was successful, all my work needs to be given the final go-ahead by my boss who's very disorganised. At first I thought it was just typical big boss, 10,000 things on his plate so my work would be down the bottom. After talking to a colleague who's been there like 20 years and has seen it all, she said he's definitely very disorganised--even as a non-manager. She said he got the promotion because he got professional tutoring for the interview and has only kept the job because he's really good with numbers (I can see that--just found out from others he's so stingy he still lives with his Mum but I won't go there). I have called him out for his disorganisation and this did improve, but that might just have been because we were working on accreditation for our facility (i.e. if we failed, the consequences were dire). Since we successfully passed, we've been back to baseline staffing levels which means I've been pretty much relieving fulltime, and so I haven't had time to work on the next accreditation to know if he's still disorganised, but I suspect he still is.

But, the job I've applied for, doesn't have as much potential as this current one (if all the above issues resolve, but then again there's no uncertainty about what I'll be doing) and is much harder to go to the city for a weekend for (this job is in a town 2hrs drive from the city with hourly trains, while the other is a 3hr drive with no real train service). I'm not a real city slicker--I find myself going down once a month on average--but it's nice to know it's there. But then again I might not miss being near the new city--it is much less multiculturally diverse than the one I'm currently near by.

All other aspects are about equal in weighting--both have extreme weather (this is 200km inland so is both hot and cold while the other regularly has tropical storms), the salaries are about equal, I have no problems making friends, there's lots to do on the weekends in both areas, so yeah. I should also mention that my current job is one of only a handful in the country so I'm also reluctant to let go.

To me, there seems to be too many unanswered questions to make a weighted decision. I really need a dealbreaker one way or the other, and neither prospect particularly stands out. Pretty much I want to wait out till July, but this job (if I do get it) cannot wait and I need to be able to start formulating an answer. I'm pretty certain I will get it, and if not, I will at least be able to sleep better the next few nights knowing I've gotten this off my chest to people who are not in the situation (i.e. are not work colleagues equally as frustrated with the boss or friends who are really good at making you feel better but have difficulty making decisions themselves).

Thanks for any advice or perspective you can give.
glache
New Member
 
Posts: 1
Joined: Fri Apr 18, 2014 5:53 pm
Likes Received: 0


#1

Postby JuliusFawcett » Sat Apr 19, 2014 7:06 am

It's a challenging decision and life is full of them. I used to weigh things up like you are doing, and that is a valid exercise, only it can never bring happiness because it is too much head work and not enough heart work, gut instinct, intuition. Learning to trust yourself more is incredibly liberating, and it takes courage. So my question, is more and more thinking about this really helping you?
User avatar
JuliusFawcett
Super Member
 
Posts: 10113
Joined: Wed May 08, 2013 4:04 pm
Location: Chesham, Bucks. England
Likes Received: 552



  • Similar Topics
    Replies
    Views
    Last post

Return to Workplace Psychology