Transferred emotions

**Posts:** 10 · by **wondering123** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:46 am

I don't know how to properly ask this, so I'm just going to give it my best shot and hope someone gets what I mean.

I will describe it in the form of a 'completely fictional' story, maybe that will help.

Johnny is watching a movie. He gets, from the film, a dose of premature "love" for the lead actress. In other words, he becomes "smitten" by her, and finds himself staring at the TV lost in space for 2 hours, and then googling her filmography to get her gorgeous face back up on that TV screen.

Now here is the part where I have a question, and maybe one of you has an answer. He knows a girl at school that looks just like her (said actress), and who acts just like her. He then persues, naturally, this girl at school - Johnny's really going for her. After a few sexual encounters, some conversation, Johnny successfully pulls this chick and they are now in a relationship! Johnny starts to fall for this girl at school.

My question is, is it possible for felt emotions toward someone to directly transfer to someone else. Can a guy be emotionally attached to someone, and then have those emotions transfer over to someone else, for assumed reasons (she looks similar/acts similar/something triggers the relation between the two).

Anyways, if anyone has an answer, I'd be stoked to here it!

Johnny

**Posts:** 209 · by **PoisonFlowers** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 11:09 am

A really interesting point you've brought up here!

Hmm, yes, I do think it's possible. Not just with people, but with other things too. It's a type of association. You associate certain emotions with certain charateristics. For example, someone could dislike a certain place because the musty, polished corridors reminds them of their old school and they didn't particularly like school.

**Posts:** 10 · by **wondering123** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 11:30 am

True, but the difference is the intimacy two people share. Almost like a spiritual connection. So, if you believe in that kind of thing, you would find it hard to believe that you can shift that connection over to another soul.

**Posts:** 209 · by **PoisonFlowers** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 12:03 pm

Ah, yes of course.
However, if the way someone acts already induces an emotional response in you, it can certainly help.
Do you believe in some sort of rare spiritual connection?

**Posts:** 10 · by **wondering123** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 12:15 pm

Ah I can't say that I do, only because of this particular situation. Maybe I liked the character because I liked the girl first. Or maybe the character played no part in me liking the girl. But they sure did look alike, and they acted very similar. Maybe it was coincidence.

**Posts:** 209 · by **PoisonFlowers** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 12:25 pm

Or maybe both the fictional character and the girl have characteristics that you already look for in a person and find attractive for whatever reason.

Just like if someone is attracted to dark, mysterious types, they might find a dark, mysterious character attractive, but that doesn't necessarily mean that the character plays any part in them liking someone in real life.

**Posts:** 10 · by **wondering123** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 1:07 pm

Aha, you are right. Thanks for answering my question. And for the record, it was Elizabeth Banks in Scrubs. That was last year. And a few hours ago, it was Zooey Deschanel in Yes Man. And a really funny thing about that - I was creepily looking at old late night interviews a few minutes ago, on Zooey, and when she had short blonde hair, she looked exactly like Elizabeth Banks. Someone even made a post about that in the youtube comments. Guess zooey and banks are prototypes for my wife, good to know. Blue eyes is essential, I'm unsure why.

**Posts:** 209 · by **PoisonFlowers** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 1:48 pm

Oh wow really? You don't have bad taste, I'll give you that.
I personally prefer Zooey Deschanel with dark rather than blonde hair though.

I find it interesting that many people are very particular about eye/hair colour preferences. I love all of them!

**Posts:** 10 · by **wondering123** » Sun Jul 19, 2009 9:10 pm

No I like her way better with dark hair too. Her green eyes come out and kick my donkey. But it was just funny to see that her facial structure and eye color match that of the other tv/movie character I've ever been into. I wouldn't have known unless I saw her with blonde hair, because I think early in her career she hadn't yet gotten all "indie" and whatnot.

**Posts:** 14 · by **Gaylene.Popovski** » Wed Sep 09, 2009 10:37 pm

We can transfer emotions all the time. That is no new discovery. Being aware we doing however means we may then bring our choice into it. Determine will doing this in this situation produce a great/not so great out come. Am I just repeating a pattern and gettng nowhere. Do I really want to keep being controlled by this pattern. Food for self knowledge and growth.
With Kindness, Gaylene

**Posts:** 248 · by **ThisIsMyNickName** » Wed Nov 18, 2009 12:29 pm

I confess I haven't read all the answers in the thread but I must say that this is a subject that means a lot to me.

We, since we are young, are used to believe that there is no love like the first one, that the first person we fall in love is the only true love and that, in every other people we meet troughout life we are always looking for someone that looks or reminds us of that same person.

Well, what people usually don't think is: why did they fall in love for the first person in the first place?

I'll tell you why, because that same person happened to be the FIRST who ensembled all your preferences - and, since you had no references of anyone like that existing before you knew that first person, you automatically think that you are looking for that same person in others. But that is wrong - there was already something you were looking for when you found that first person. The first person is only special due to it - because it was the first. That doesn't mean she is the best or, god forbids, that she is the only one.

**Posts:** 248 · by **ThisIsMyNickName** » Wed Nov 18, 2009 12:31 pm

And as to transfer emotions I must tell you this is extremely possible. I'm an actor and, for instance, in order to make a love scene you have to remind yourself of what you feel/felt for somebody and then transfer it to the other person you're working with.

Look up for the concept of "transference" and, if you really want to go deeper, read some things on Method Acting and Konstantin Stanislavky.

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