I am angry at my parents and I can't do anything

**Posts:** 4 · by **weston** » Mon Feb 17, 2014 8:28 pm

They are old, my mom is 72 and my dad is 76, and they are frail. I don't want to put any stress on them by telling them what has been going on with my life, but I am angry that they were not good parents when I was little. I grew up very lonely and depressed and scared and they didn't even notice therefore did nothing to help. I spent my whole life (I am over 40 now) dealing with depression, anxiety and etc on my own and have been barely able to survive. They just know I don't go out much and not very social. That's all they know. They think I am fine coz I was able to get a degree and have been able to hold jobs. But what is life that is void of simple happiness. If life was a plant, then it has been growing up in darkness with no air and no water. Now my parents are wondering where is the fruit from the plant. And I can't answer. (I am still signle and of course no kids. I have a job but by no means I am successful even though I have a higher education and seem smart.) My only purpose in this world seems to be just taking care of them. I can't help thinking all the things I have missed in life. I have been living alone and one day I will die alone.

So for parents out there, please be very very careful with your kids and be very watchful. I sure hope no kid has to go through what I have been through.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Mon Feb 17, 2014 9:05 pm

The past is over. We all have this moment. We can all choose our next thought. We can choose a loving thought, a peaceful thought, a forgiving thought.

I don't blame you for being angry and thought patterns to do with blame and anger can never bring you happiness. You can learn to let go of these negative thought patterns, you can learn to allow happiness to flow more easily in your life.

As you learn to let go of the past and focus more on this moment you can find that your purpose is to be happy in this moment and this means looking after yourself in a more enjoyable way, with more self respect, more self acceptance, more self approval, more self appreciation. By learning to be your own best friend first, you will attract other people into your life. You are wonderful, you are amazing, you have something unique to offer the world, and you can believe in yourself more, you can imagine a more enjoyable future and then move towards that compelling future one step at a time, one thought at a time.

**Posts:** 4 · by **weston** » Mon Feb 17, 2014 9:17 pm

Thanks for your reply. I do try to focus on what I have at this moment.

I know I need to look ahead instead of looking at the past. But my past has molded and shaped who I am and where I am, and it has been haunting my dreams.

Now I understand when people say strong character is built by love. How do I build love if I have received none ?

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Mon Feb 17, 2014 9:45 pm

More love starts with your next thought. This video can help you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SGgnx4f ... YwdCN2DLoN

**Posts:** 187 · by **Fackeffaced** » Thu Feb 20, 2014 10:15 am

Let it go, and what important now is you must face the reality. Life must go on, if you live with regrets, I don't think it will make a good output in the future. Forgiveness is the key.

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