PAWSsurvivor wrote: Why do I have to provide examples anyways of your posting habits? Can't you just affirm or deny my claim? You know how you post. My thoughts are that it's my "PawsSurvivor" handle that really drew you to my posts in particular.
It is interesting to see how you think my mind must work, e.g. that your handle was the big factor.
When I log on the first thing I click is “unanswered posts”. Next I click “your posts”. And finally, I scroll to the bottom left and glance at “recent posts”. If I see someone that posts regularly or a poster I recognize, I might click to see what they have to say.
That’s it. No big secret. No weighing or considering which posts require more advice or which handle stands out. I don’t click on any category like “addictions” or “eating disorders”. And this means that I often miss posts on these particular topics.
It’s not that your posts happen to draw my attention for some special reason. It’s just one day you posted and when I logged on at clicked “unanswered” your post popped up. Or maybe I saw in recents tokeless had responded so decided to click.
And once you and I had struck up a decent conversation, it makes whatever you post more attractive. You offer up some interesting points to consider and you don’t scream “Troll” simply because you disagree with my opinions or have nothing to offer.
Probably you see different posts because you are focused on the “addictions” category and you have little if any interest in any of the other categories. At least, I don’t remember you participating in discussions related to eating disorders, anger management, etc. Why is that?
Now, I could develop some theory of mind related to your posting behaviors. I could try to develop some story as to why you choose to ignore various discussions but participate in others. I’m not going to, because I simply have no interest in that issue.
Instead, I prefer to ask you about why you believe that you need special accommodations in a public forum. That interests me. I think you are smart enough to take it to the ultimate conclusion, which would be a forum that simply doesn’t function as no one can express an opinion as they try to ensure they don’t post any links for member A, and don’t use the word “disorder” for member B, and don’t say PAWS doesn’t exist for members C, D, and E, and make sure you use non gendered language for member F, etc.
Also not all fear can be measured the same. There are "warriors" who can order an air strike, but can't function outside of the military because of other fears that are may be quite simple for others to deal with. Some people like that, are afraid to be vulnerable or outside the structure of the military. Doesn't make one more brave than the other necessarily.
You are talking about brave as some fixed yes/no characteristic, as in a person is brave, rather than a person does something brave. I wasn’t saying a warrior was brave and the person that can’t click a link is not brave as in some fixed trait across all behaviors. I was only pointing out the difference in the action. There is a huge gulf between the act of calling in an air strike on oneself and managing that fear, versus the fear of clicking on a link because it might contain something scary to read.
Of course there are people that manage their fear across most situations better than others and we will understandably see them as “brave” in the sense of who they are, not just their actions. For instance, Sul Ross fought in 135 battles in his life. Even if he was at the same time afraid of spiders, I think that irrational fear would not necessarily negate the perception that he was a brave man.
And that is what you face, an irrational fear. And this irrational fear has you asking for special accommodations so that you can navigate public conversations without experiencing any discomfort. And you attribute this irrational fear to smoking weed for 3 months over two years ago, right? Or has that belief changed?