Overwhelming

gwhipple wrote:I recently lost my wife to a friend of the family. I have a daughter who is not my biological daughter, who has been mine for eleven years, and she`s 15yrs old. She found her biological father on facebook. All of this happened over a two week period. That`s not all, my daughter is now calling me by my first name and calling her biological father, dad. ouch!! I gave all the love sacrifices, time, and I never let her down.
This is too much to bare I just don't know what to do, it hits especially hard at Christmas.

gwhipple

Been there mate, it's not funny. There is nothing that you can do except be there for her when her "Dad" isn't what she expects. Talk to her and find out her plans. But don't stop her.

The thing is she is also experiencing new things in her life now. her mum has splt from you and her loyalties are divided enough THEN she finds the sperm donor who hasn't contacted her for at least 11 years.

She has lots of questions and answers to find. Just be there for her, if you're still on speaking terms, and listen to her.

You are still her father, because you have brought her up and showed her values and morals, but she is not your daughter. There is a difference.
I found that one out for myself and it's not pleasant.