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Postby coffeelove3 » Wed Jan 21, 2015 6:52 pm

How the hell did I go from super fit high school girl, later gym/health enthusiast to crap food and too lazy to go to the gym

I have zero energy, I'm tired by 6pm, If I do things like clean out my garage- I'm achey the next day- im only 28 and I hate this person I have become
I could blame it on taking care for my sick mother and it depressing me in a way I didnt think possible
-So i tied to be the girl I was before and would do good for a week or a month and the binge eat again


how do I get my head straight. I feel awful, then feel good and awful again
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Postby [email protected] » Wed Jan 21, 2015 7:07 pm

When you feel awful you are probably not focused on now, but instead living in the past and/or wishing a different future. IMO feeling awful has a lot to do with where our head is at any moment in time.

You know what it takes to be healthy and you know it is going to take some time. Focus on today, tomorrow and next week. You lose weight, you get health one day at a time, one step at a time. Stop comparing the you of now to the you of X years ago. We get older, none of us are the us of several years ago. Instead set small goals and move forward. Personally, I set weekly targets for myself.
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Postby JuliusFawcett » Sun Jan 25, 2015 12:56 pm

It's all in the self talk, this video can help you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCAMhb_ ... YwdCN2DLoN
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Postby DumSpiroSpero » Mon Feb 16, 2015 7:14 am

Richard got a gold point there. Focus on today first. Try to do things that you can do for today. then plan for tommoroow.
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Postby Renfred » Sat Feb 21, 2015 6:13 pm

any best one advise for a fat girl...

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Postby Catcanhelp » Wed May 27, 2015 4:36 am


This will be your magic tool to give you the results you are looking for.

ReRead your submission and think of it as someone else's...would you say this person sees themselve in a positive way or a negative way?

The best friend and worst enemy you will have in your life is YOU! And you decide whether yiu trust and love yourself or whether you will continue to judge yourself. To make it clear, you are making it harder on yourself by telling yourself that you are not good enough, or that you used to be "better" look at you! You said yourself that you've been taking care of a sick family member. That is beautiful, that is strong, that is caring and that is love. Maybe you haven't felt enough support or attention but you are an angel to your mom. All that love and care you have provided for her means you have that much in you to love and care for yourself!

Start loving yourself. Make sure you are getting enough rest, sleeping properly, eating regularly, and giving yourself time off when you need it. Go out with friends, remind yourself what you enjoyed about your time in high school. You'll find it has a lot more to do with what you were doing then whet you looked like. What activities do you enjoy or look interesting to you? Take a class!! Go out with friends or find a gym or recreation group around you that partaken in those activities.

Make a list for yourself of all the things you'd like to do and share it with people who will support you, not those who may not. Do it for you! Love youself and take care of yourself, like you do your mom. You're the only one who can do that. Invest in a friend to take your mind off of things, look into hiring a care person to help or 'nanny' to help with any errands or tasks that may help unload your schedule a little bit. Go out for a date, if you're single, or just go out dancing. Find the passion in you that excites you that moves you inspires you, he'll blast some good music in your car or pour yourself a small glass of wine on the weekend. Find a plethora of tools or 'crayons' you can pull out to help color your day or week a little brighter
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Postby your.transformations » Wed Jun 03, 2015 4:19 am

coffeelove3 wrote:I could blame it on taking care for my sick mother and it depressing me in a way I didnt think possible

You shouldn't discard the fact that the situation with your mother did influence your wellbeing in a very negative way. It will only make you more frustrated when trying to "get back on your feet".
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Postby Renfred » Sat Sep 17, 2016 12:24 pm

[quote="Renfred"]any best one advise for a fat girl...

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Postby VeronaRodriguez » Tue Feb 07, 2017 6:35 am

As you said taking care of your sick mother is depressing you, try to work on that as it is the main cause of all your problems. Try to calm your mind by just going for a walk or hanging out with friends.
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Postby zogota » Tue Dec 19, 2017 4:15 am

Focus on the first day, Try to do things you can do for the day, Then plan for tomorrow. :)
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Postby grumpyone » Thu Mar 08, 2018 12:43 am

Just stay positive....
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Postby grumpyone » Tue Mar 13, 2018 1:25 pm

focus on today first
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Postby laureat » Sun Mar 18, 2018 3:15 am


whenever it starts to become a lot of pressure about the future ( how you look like, how much money you make and whatsoever ) just forget about all that and focus what you are about to do this week

on this case you feel less pressure and you are more focused and more effective on bringing positive results
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