Great to hear from you again.
Just try to be clear with them always though, to avoid any sorts of misunderstanding. (That would be my #1 concern.)
Take care!
Fernandita wrote:@ethanbridges
Thank you! My husband and I think is the best for Us to leave on our own, we already spoke with his sister and as I mentioned before even thought they think we are being ungrateful we'll talk to my parents in law about them moving out. Now even though my husband and I feel ready to talk to them, I don't know how we are going to bring this topic to them. I really don't want them to feel like we don't love them, we are ungrateful or we just don't want them on our lives, we just want to have our privacy and have that experience of living on our own just the 4 of us. Or having her for few days at home and be excited to see her here, or to take her out, Anger Managment might not be the right forum for this topic since it was my first time ever using this. But I just want to make it clear that I love her, I also love my father in law and if I knew that they have anywhere else to go or no financing support or if they are old
I wouldnt ever asked them to leave my house, but besides our mistake on asking them to move in with us I think is time for us to live on our own.
McCain wrote: I like my privacy.
McCain wrote:How did you get to this analysis? I must have missed something. I live in a place that has old people working everywhere. There are many that are happily retired and volunteer their time to my community.
Both of my parents worked very hard their whole lives. Both of them have masters in their chosen fields. My dad still works (Chief of police) that will be a high-liabiliy retirement for him when he decides to stop working. My mother retired this year and she planned everything diligently. She knew for the last 40 years, that this moment was coming.
Everyone needs to plan for their retirement. It doesn't sneak up on you. I wouldn't expect my kids to take care of something that is my responsibility. What kind of example would I be?
The woman that posted this thread, owes nobody for being irresponsible.
I think we struck a personal chord with you Leo. Did you forget to plan for your retirement?
I'm not speaking about leaving elderly people out in the cold. I'm speaking about not putting it on someone else, if you didn't wake up 40 something years ago and realize the day was coming.
It is not the economy, or society. It is personal responsibility.
We all know this day will come, but according to you, if you squalor, it is up to the rest of the world to fix it.
McCain
McCain wrote:Leo, were in the same boat, and your right. There are things that unexpectedly come up and can knock a well intended person right off their feet. It happened to my business in 2006. I lost everything due to the ripple effect of Hurricane Katrina. People were not interested in advertisement, there were no more new businesses looking for my marketing skills, and 75% of my clients were realtors . Nobody was buying property or building anymore.
It was devastating for my whole industry and I lost everything.
Since then it has been a long broke journey for me. You and I have this in common. I understand brother.
You also have a very valid perception and have made a good point.
Your friend McCain