tokeless wrote:Candid wrote:As noted before, marriage is a better deal for them than it is for us.
Until it comes to divorce, then it flips alright. Maybe it's payback eh Candid?
That isn't such a gender divide as you might think. It's more about earning power. I got hugely ripped off at the end of my first marriage simply because I was the higher earner.
Obviously where there are offspring under 18 the primary caregiver needs a roof over their heads and the wherewithal to feed them with. Since the primary caregiver is almost always a woman, the man is required to cough up. After all, they're his children, too. He can go his way unencumbered while she's got her work cut out and a whopping hole in her CV.
Smart couples realise that if they want to fight over money and assets, the divorce court will get the bulk of it. So they negotiate and agree on what's fair.
Your divorce was a long time ago and it sounds like you felt ripped off. I was too, and because I'd married a ratbag there was no discussion; he just went to the bank while I was at work and emptied our joint account.