by Leo Volont » Mon Aug 31, 2020 2:05 am
Hi GalmOne,
Thank you. Yeah, I am still amazed at how calm I was during that crisis. The quiet that came over my mind was what allowed me to pick up on my intuitions and then implement a plan. I think that much of it depends on not reflexively cussing and swearing when something goes wrong. I had a career as a failure analyse service technician working at both instrument and systems level, often on 'Line Stopper' failures. The trick is to never get frustrated, and that is evinced by cussing or slamming tables. I've seen other engineers and techs show frustration and I tell them "you're useless now. Get a cup of coffee". It was almost superstitious, that you don't want the GREMLINS to know they can push your buttons. You can't show the Instrument fear. So you stay calm. Oh, also when I was younger I learned how to fly. Flying is not like driving where people think they need to react to and respond to other people's driving. Also, we see a lot of Anger in terms of Drama... people get angry for audiences and drivers have audiences. But flying is solitary and issues that come up are natural and mechanical without the social human component and so it is easier to stay calm. Even when I was characterizable for my anger, I never got angry at the wheel of a car, airplane or motorcycle. That was one link that was able to help me deal with my anger, by figuring out what I was doing right there and not with the rest of my life.
Especially if you have anger issues, the ONLY THING you really need to do is stay calm. That is easiest to do if you DO NOTHING, SAY NOTHING. Nobody ever got fired for NOT talking back to the boss. No marriage ever broke up for not responding to spouses taunts. They used to recommend counting to ten. That works mostly because by the time you reach 10 the moment has already passed. The only way to remember to do nothing is to ingrain the response in your mind. If you are subject to anger and fear that any day you might screw up and blow up, well, every morning and whenever you have a moment do a short Auto-Hypnosis. But as a prep the next time you take a nap count up to 100 and then start over and count up to 1000. this won't entirely keep you from thinking and the internal monologue but it will lessen it. Eventually you will feel different and get what are called hypnagogic imagery which are little snippets of dreams. Well, remember how that feels because it is a particular mental wavelength. SO for Auto Hypnosis you want to count DOWN form about 30, and imagine yourself going down a spiral stair case or falling down a well or something where it gets darker and deeper. When you get to zero then FEEL as though you are in the hypnagogic state. You know you are close if you have trouble remembering what your Suggestion to yourself was supposed to be. But just allow yourself to float in that state and imagine situations where an emotional or social crisis occurs and you successfully react by doing nothing. then just come back up. If you ever take naps and notice that hypnagogic imagery then TRY to remember this suggestion, or any suggestion you want to work on because your mind of very receptive when in that wavelength.