I'm 24 years old gurl, single, happy independent woman that never been in a relationship before.
But lately, theres one guy that is attracted to me and seemed really wants to get closer to me. He is nice, kind, soft, good looking, like he's overall perfect. We have met a couple times, having chit chat, and chill time. i think he wants to get me more deeper in our relationship. The weird thing is, eventho i kinda like him for his kindness, eventho he's all perfect and our conversations always flow perfectly, i still feel numb towards him, like theres no butterfly effect in my stomach when i met him, and whenever i met him, i always feel anxious, pressured, worried, and im afraid if one day he would confess his feelings and wants me as his girlfriend. During that time, it kinda makes me so sick physically. I've been losing appetite, nauseous, been overthinking and stressful thinking about what happen next, what happen if he will be my boyfriend, and worrying how if i lose my freedom. I know it sounds crazy and and i realized that this is abnormal thing to ever happen. I don't even know what i want and what should i do. I can just cut him off, but on the other side i dont wanna lose him because i know that i am lucky that some perfect-nice-humble-good looking guy attracted to me. I kinda want him, but sometimes i just want to be alone and single. It all felt just like i have double personality which is tiring. And my physical sickness when i met him (or even when i don't meet him) is tiring as well. What happened to me? Am i having dating anxiety or having fear of commitment with someone? How can i cope with this?
My past relationship history: i am cold hearted woman who don't easily fall in love with people. I have several guys who ever attracted to me, At first i don't like them at all but the way they treat me makes me catching feelings on them but when i have crush back on them, they're leaving and gone.