Depression caused by a new relationship

**Posts:** 3 · by **alecssat** » Sat Apr 07, 2018 5:17 pm

Hello everyone! My boyfriend and I have been dating for an year. After a month we started dating he become feeling sick. He had different sympthoms and went to various doctors, but all of them told him there was nothing organic, just psychological. He continued being sick, even now he have different pain, mostly stomach ache. A few weeks ago he told me that he wants us to take a break because he thinks those sympthoms are all because of me, because of loving me. We stayed separated for 3 weeks, then started dating again. After those 3 weeks he had no pain, but then the pain had reappeared. We have broken up again as he want to recover and then to fix our relationship. He is always telling me that he loves me, that I am a wonderful girl and he doesn` t want to lose me. I love him to the moon and back and i don`t want to lose him, but i can`t understand how this can happen. How can you be depressed by loving someone. A few month ago we went to a psychiatrist and he was diagnosed with somatization in depression disorder. What can i do to help him? And what can i do to make this work? Why is this happening?

**Posts:** 9885 · by **Candid** » Sat Apr 07, 2018 5:35 pm

Let me get this straight.

You've been with this boyfriend for a year, and he's been "sick" for 11 months of that year.

The two of you agreed to take a break, he got better, then when you started seeing him again he went back to being "sick". He says he thinks you're the problem.

The mystery is why either of you would pursue this a day longer.

Tell him good luck and goodbye, sweetheart.

**Posts:** 3 · by **alecssat** » Sat Apr 07, 2018 5:56 pm

Thank you for your reply! I really thought about that, but we love each other and we both want this to work. We just can` t understand why is it happening. We never fight, we never argue. We were just perfect except that he has this pain. Why is this pain caused by me if i never done anything wrong to him? And will this happen with any lover he might have in the future or only with me?

**Posts:** 9885 · by **Candid** » Sat Apr 07, 2018 6:07 pm

Wrong questions, alecssat. I'm not worried about him. I'm wondering why any girl/woman would tolerate a boy/man who's mysteriously sick for 11 months of the 12 she's been with him... and blames her for it.

**Posts:** 3 · by **alecssat** » Sat Apr 07, 2018 6:22 pm

Thank you so much!
So i understand there is nothing to do, even if both of us want this, we can` t have it. I just have to broke my heart and try to forget him. But i just feel miserable for what i caused him and on the other hand i can`t understand how can i be the cause when anything i did was to support his to get over this.

**Posts:** 9885 · by **Candid** » Sat Apr 07, 2018 6:31 pm

It wasn't anything you did.

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