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by Itsmyfault » Thu Apr 28, 2005 5:37 am
Hi all. I was wondering around the internet trying to find information on anger management. This forum looked informative to me. Here's my situation. I have so much anger locked up, and I'm not sure why. I seem to blow every small problem out of proportion. I get so angry at everything. First I get mad at the situation, then I find a reason why it's my fault. I scream at myself, I beat my pillows, and then I sleep...and sleep...and sleep. I know I have a problem. I am 31 yrs old, and would love to start a family, however, I scare myself with my anger...How will a child react to it? My husband works out of state 5 days a week, so he doesn't really have to deal with me much. I have several animals (4 wrinkley shar peis, 2 cuddly ferrets, a big fluffy bunny, and a brattycatty who loves all the above), and find myself screaming at them for stuff I know they can't control. I'm sure it seems a little crazy that I'm worried about the treatment of my animals, but I don't know where to start with controlling my anger. Not to mention, the animals are all I seem to have right now. I'm not crazy, I just don't know how to begin this new journey. Any help is appreciated.
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by briary » Sat Apr 30, 2005 6:10 am
Hi Itsmyfault
Welcome to the forum. Sounds like you are willing to try to get to the bottom of this anger problem.
This Anger Management article could be of help to you.
It could also be an idea to speak to your doctor and ask about getting on an anger management course.
Let us know how you get on.
Briary
Welcome to the forum. Sounds like you are willing to try to get to the bottom of this anger problem.
This Anger Management article could be of help to you.
It could also be an idea to speak to your doctor and ask about getting on an anger management course.
Let us know how you get on.
Briary
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by timetogetunstuck » Sun May 01, 2005 2:28 pm
hi itsmyfault
you want to wake up from your dream of failing, being a victim, being angry, hurting yourself and other people?
it takes a lot of work but in a way its quite simple.
You have to do some work on finding out how you came to be how you are. You have to take responsibility for actively keeping things this way (as an adult) and to see the payoffs you get from doing it the way you do it.
And then you have to start doing it differently - and that is where it really hurts because if you want something different in your life, you won't be able to continue doing it the same way. To change things, you're going to need understanding. Understanding can come from someone helping you to get a new point of view. And when you have a new point of view, to change things you're going to need discipline. Discipline will take your willingness, your courage and support from someone who can give it.
Best wishes
you want to wake up from your dream of failing, being a victim, being angry, hurting yourself and other people?
it takes a lot of work but in a way its quite simple.
You have to do some work on finding out how you came to be how you are. You have to take responsibility for actively keeping things this way (as an adult) and to see the payoffs you get from doing it the way you do it.
And then you have to start doing it differently - and that is where it really hurts because if you want something different in your life, you won't be able to continue doing it the same way. To change things, you're going to need understanding. Understanding can come from someone helping you to get a new point of view. And when you have a new point of view, to change things you're going to need discipline. Discipline will take your willingness, your courage and support from someone who can give it.
Best wishes
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