Posting violent behavior on Facebook

**Posts:** 1 · by **Itsme1189** » Mon Apr 14, 2014 3:32 am

My ex-bf has been posting videos of himself burning and cutting stuffed animals. He has also been posting rants that display great anger about people and society. He is in his late 20's.
About two years ago, he suffered an injury while training for the Army and has been seemingly declining mentally since then, but recently has shifted to much more aggressive behavior. I have offered my support multiple times, but he is shutting me out. We were together for 7 years and split due to his behavior after his injury.
He refuses to believe that he needs mental and emotional help on most days and I am unsure if there is anything that I can do or how to go about getting him help. His family laughs off his behavior and does not take him seriously, and doesn't have friends that care to get involved.
I do not feel that he is in immediate danger of harming himself, but his patterns are showing that there is a pretty good possibility that he may be in the future.
I am looking for suggestions or information on who I may be able to talk to about this issue.

Thank You!

**Posts:** 1554 · by **laureat** » Wed Apr 16, 2014 4:35 pm

First you need to focus on yourself and overcome that fearful state of the mind; so you can relax and feel comfortable ; because " NOTHING BAD IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN "

Just because someone express themselves on weird ways that doesn't necessary mean they are becoming crazy; it could be just someone EXPRESSING ENERGY on weird ways;

You don't have to PANIC, you don't have to FEAR about this ; focus on finding yourself beautiful ways to spend your ENERGY : EXERCISE, DISCIPLINE, AFFECTION,

So you are teaching your boyfriend WHAT TO FOCUS ON, you are teaching your boyfriend how to approach the situation: by having you a ROLE MODEL

When you are more relaxed you are giving a good role model to follow people around you: because we pickup ENERGY from each other; so the ENERGY that you sharing has to be the one that you want from people around you

**Posts:** 3015 · by **tokeless** » Wed Apr 16, 2014 6:34 pm

All I can advise is to let it be... you can't 'rescue' him from himself, just get sucked in to his problems. He needs to either see he's not well or face the consequences at some point. Let his family monitor him..

best wishes

**Posts:** 2008 · by **WonderGurl** » Thu Apr 17, 2014 10:47 pm

Let go. It is his journey, not yours.

**Posts:** 11 · by **Mateen** » Thu Apr 24, 2014 4:26 am

Yup, no use fighting others' war. Just unfriend him and let go, you aren't responsible so you should not worry but if you still have that passion to do something right then volunteer for charity work or at an elderly home.

Trying to stop him will only waste your time and effort, you could be doing so much more with that but instead you are choosing to work on a hopeless cause by the sound of it, sadly. If you're a believer in prayers, then just pray for his betterment and start forgetting him, because if he does harm himself in the future then you'll be beating yourself over it even though it wasn't your fault.

If unfriending isn't your decision then just unfollow him on Facebook by opting out from seeing his posts in your newsfeed.

**Posts:** 47 · by **TheCarpenter** » Sat Aug 09, 2014 5:20 am

sometimes, some people need to be alone to realize their mistakes. let him do what he wants as long he's not hurting you or your love ones.

**Posts:** 17 · by **Onelumsum** » Mon Jun 20, 2016 10:44 pm

Why for YEARS now with no "follow up"?

Is the writer still being notified of new replies?

I'd vote this Thread as possibly being of (unusually) serious concern.

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