What goes up must come down.

Arne Pedersen wrote:If we do not make friends with what we feel, its like gravity: What goes up must come down.

If we push our emotions away, distract ourselves to avoid our pain, stay busy to keep negative feelings and thoughts at bay, then the laws of physics are eventually going to get the better of us. We cannot avoid what we feel forever, as the more we do habitual things to keep from being with what we don’t want to feel, the emotional energy from our avoided feelings builds up and will re-surface in many undesirable ways such as anger, anxiety, overwhelmment, panic attacks, depression, and even disease!

If we instead create a new practice of being with and experiencing what we feel rather that avoiding or resisting, then over time we will process through the old emotions that have built up over the years. Just imagine what it might be like to just feel the emotions resulting from a direct result of what happens in the moment and be able to process through it with self acceptance and ease, rather than unresolved past emotions always getting mixed in and causing emotional triggers, confusion, anxiety or overwhelm!

A simple awareness practice of going into our breathing on a regular bases will slowly get us back in touch with our inner feelings, which will allow us to better process and release all our past unresolved emotions that have caused years of stress. Allowing and accepting what we feel will bring a state of ease to our body, which will slowly release the holding patterns of tension that keep stress in place.

Good Evening Arne,

Arne, you seem to be behind the times by about 40 or 50 years. Remember Psychoanalysis? Psychoanalysis was all about understanding and processing all the feelings that caused so many dysfunctions that they were considered pathological, you know, anxiety and depression. But we KNOW how Psychoanalysis worked out, Arne. the treatments never ended. There was always More and More Understanding but Understanding doesn't really process anything. If anything, focusing on our dysfunctional feelings only supports them... justifies them. Let a patient dig up all the reasons why they hate their Mother and therefore All Women and, well, they will continue on with the Hate, won't they? Is that supposed to help?

Do you know the History behind Psychoanalysis, that is, the History of its Decline and Fall? Well, it was obvious after a while that nobody was being cured but that the Psychiatrists were just in the business of milking Rich Clients, the only clients who could afford an hour a week for every week of their lives. Then there was the Depression and then World War Two. PEOPLE NEEDED HELP, Arne. So the Psychological Community, that previously had only STUDIED Human Behavior, felt they had to jump in and do TREATMENT. and the government supported them, since the Psychiatric Profession was USELESS. So, really, Today the differentiation is that the Psychiatrists can prescribe Meds... they are only good at doping their patients up. But for THERAPY they go to Psychologists.

And what is the Therapy that Psychologists use? Well, Arne, have you heard about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or variants thereof like Rational Emotive Therapy? Arne, those Therapies that have been proven to be effective don't waste much time at JUSTIFYING our dysfunctional feelings. If our Thinking or Feeling gets us into Trouble, then it is BAD. It is considered the product of BAD Conditioning. The FIX is to recondition the Thinking (we have bad habits in the way we think and habits can be changed) or the way we appraise situations. Also, sometimes people get into trouble with just Behavioral Habits that are dysfunctional. Arne, we are NOT Spiritual Beings, where Feelings arise from Ideal Perfect Souls, no, we are psychological mechanism, and Science has learned how to straighten out our dysfunctions, not by cuddling them, but mostly by ignoring them and replacing them with Functional Thinking and learning to appraise situations so that we have Positive Feelings instead of Destructive Feelings. Likewise for simple conditioned behaviors.

And, Arne, are you selling something? Why are you on the Anger Management page? Arne, Angry People have real problems. Their Careers and Relationships depend on their being able to Keep a Lid on their Anger, and then you come along and tell them to to just Go With the Flow. You could destroy lives with your nonsense here, Arnie. so unless you are willfully predatory and remorseless, please, just stop it with your Psychiatry from the Dark Ages. Thank you.