Hello, I am also new here.
I apologize in advance if I have some grammatical errors , English is not my first language.
So, I have to give a bit of a back story on myself in order to clarify my situation as much as possible.
First of all , I am 25 y/o male , and I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was about 6.
In my childhood days, I was a burden on everyone, including my family.
Because of my ADHD I caused everyone trouble , and of course school was a nightmare.
Back then the only 2 options of treatment available were Ritalin or Concerta, after trying both I "responded" better to Ritalin and I stuck with it.
Thing is the side effects of the drug were too severe and they've caused me a lot of trouble.
There were:
making me sleepy so even if I was focused on studying I almost never paid attention because of my sleepiness.
They removed my appetite , people who take pills like Ritalin or Adderall probably know what I am talking about , I wouldn't eat all day (which also messed up with my ability to concentrate) and I would've ate a lot more in the evenings.
They made me super shy , I never took part in the classrooms because they would've lowered my confidence to 0 , that caused me to develop a stutter which accompanies me to this day.
So my school life were not great, because of that I never got any "studying" skills and of course I flunked most of my junior school and high school.
Fast forward to today, I am 25 now , studying is somewhat easier for me but to be honest only by a small margin.
I have issues with studying which I don't know how to overcome.
My issue is that I just don't want to do it.
Yes , am fighting with myself whenever I want to study.
Right now I am studying level 4 math (I need a level 4 to get accepted into the college that I want to study engendering in) , but studying causes me actual discomfort.
Lets say I want to study , immediately I would start to feel discomfort, I would start to feel like I REALLY DON'T WANT TO DO IT, I would do everything and anything to avoid it like casually opening up news sites or YouTube or checking my bank account or w/e.
Eventually enough time would pass that I would say to myself "well now I can't study because it's too late for it" and give up on it.
On days that I am actually studying it's because I force myself to, and that's the issue, I FORCE myself to do it I don't actually want to do it.
Even though I am seeing improvement in math, even though I can solve stuff easier and think about creative new ways to approach problems , even after all of that I always feel like I prefer to do something else.
I don't want to be this way anymore, I want to take care of my future and I want to actually want to study not to force myself to do it.
Also the "ritual" I need to do before each studying session is annoying my as well.
I need to :
Make sure I ate something so I can take Adderall.
Make sure I remove all of my computer accessories off my desk to make room for my notebooks and pens etc'.
Make sure to boot up brain.fm for "focus music".
Plug in my Headphones to the PC via Bluetooth (because they're also my everyday headphones)
Load up the studying website.
Try to study in 45 min intervals with 10 minute breaks for 4 hours.
I feel like my approach to studying is too messy and I want to simplify it.
Also , I feel a big part of this whole situation is because I am trying to do too many things at once.
I am "trying" to study math for 4 hours everyday, I'm also in the middle of learning how to play the piano so I need to devote for it an hour a day, I also need to find time to read my books so I need to devote them an hour a day (at least) , and before the quarantine I needed to devote my mornings to the gym.. And of course on top of all of that I am also a full time employee.
I feel so overwhelmed that it's killing me.
I just don't know how to do all of these things , I want to better myself.. I truly do , I just don't know how.