Dear reader,
I am quite happy to actually find a place where people still care for one another, show emotion and guide others in-need.
Not quite sure how to begin, I am lost.
I lived a short fruitful life for about 7~9 years, until dad have left us and we started moving from a flat to another.
Lived a life without my father, life taught me to be strong... have really opened up my mind about many things, mostly in life matter and behavior with others.
Used to be very angry person who tends to settle things in anger, time have past by and asked my mother to find a psychologist doctor I can talk to, so she did, have been visiting her since I used to be 11 or so, until I became around 16 or so.
As I grew, the smaller my depression becomes, until I had no need for my meds any more and living my life as normally as it gets. until I became a very patient person, a clam guy who thinks clearly before he acts.
I am more as the gentle man, tend to be tolerant with people, be it close or strangers.
The fact is I started to hate myself due to my "kindness". I know what I am doing is not weakness, but it truly comes from wisdom and strength, to hold your emotions and anger and to treat incidents in a professional calm matter.
I loved a person for a long 3 years, battling her parents to marry her until my dream came true, we married and we started an amazing life together.
Wife didn't turn out the person I was thinking she would be, I loved her due to her maturity and wisdom, a person who wouldn't underrate kindness, appreciate every little given, take care of details about the words coming out.
She goes into very moody personalities, and I am always trying to please her, I know it might sound corny but I love her and she loves me to, she tends to get upset as even as the wrong words I might use, expecting I mean something while I meant smoothing else.
I am simply a person who have no hatred in his heart against people, specially my loved one.
I end up consuming too much energy focusing on my daily work and to also keep her happy and positive.
By this personality, I tend to cover others while I be naked, effecting my work where they just push me on work and no promotions or whatever so, regardless of how many and how big the projects I am working with.
I am a social person, but... I don't tend to attach myself or let many people get attached to me too much.
I have friend but not many, and I like to keep it that way.
My life lost its colors as I age... I used to go on trips, I used to love photography, I used to love playing video games.. doing many others things I used to find really entertaining, all that is I cannot really find and feel that great emotion anymore.
Sometimes.. I end up consuming 2 to 3 hours convincing myself what game to play, even doing so I still don't have that much fun.. not many things really get me into fun that much.
I feel pointless.. going on circles, my wife is one of the main reasons I am losing my stamina and myself, tried to reason with her by various means for as good as 1 year now.. she cries.. she apologizes and same thing happens.
Used to workout almost daily at the gym.. now I barely go one time a month.. I feel like I am always drained out, no energy no momentum to do anything.
I have a strong feeling as if my chest has a big hollow and it keep growing bigger and a bigger, as if there's something big missing but I still can't find what or know why.
Yes, I had many thoughts about ending my life, being kind and gentle made me hate myself, I am too mature to use death as a reason to end my sufferings, I love my family and I enjoy supporting them.
If you are still reading this, thank you, I know its not a straight question that I am asking.. but I am simply lost and have no thoughts, I feel like an empty vessel, despite my stressful work nature, I feel its the only thing I enjoy slightly time to time.
Thinking to divorce my wife, but I love her too much to let her go, and I love her too much that makes my heart in pain too, no idea what to do, no idea what is wrong.
Sincerely,
Baxso