Help with a fetish!

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Postby Desireforrubber » Sat Sep 18, 2021 7:58 am

@lleathr joan
I know this reply is a few years late but just joined.I have been in kinky and fetish scene my entire adult life and if it doesnt involve kink it doesntbwork if u know my meaning .Anyway in my younger years I had a session or 3 with a proffessional mistress and I said to her I had no idea where this came from and she replied my desires are nothing evil or out of bounds so dont try annalise it or u drive yourself crazy simply enjoy it whichbI did and much much more to this day .I love the look of anwoman wearing rubber rain wear and it give me sexy thoughts ....in a nice way lol so just enjoy
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Postby rubber roger » Mon Sep 20, 2021 9:24 pm

Hello Desireforrubber,
Totally agree with your sentiments in regard to your fetish for womens rubber rainwear. Accept & enjoy.
I've been totally enamoured with rubber & womens rainwear for over 70 years since age 4. Like you, I must have rubber for successful sex & also enjoy many kinky variations to this fetish. If you would like to pursue this topic in greater detail via email I would be more than happy to do so.
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Postby nylonjacket » Sun Jan 02, 2022 9:34 pm

I'm not sure if my good memory is a blessing or a curse, however, I recall almost every instance of my fetish development. long before It was something I thought I should be embarrassed or ashamed of. I also recall the moment I was caught, shamed, and punished and thats when I began to hide my fetish interests from others.

I would very much like to correspond with others in regards to their fetishes. especially ones for rain gear, windbreakers, and plastic pants.
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Postby LF1955 » Tue Feb 15, 2022 10:14 am

Sorry to take so long to post again.

We have moved and I retired.

I would be very happy to correspond with others who share our interests.
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Tue Feb 15, 2022 10:28 pm

This may help:
Many years ago (prior to my psychology research) I got interested in what we called D/S. I had always been excited by female domination - specifically having my masculinity "challenged", i.e. being submissive to females. This went so far as visiting professional dominatrixes when I lived in Spain. Of course, I was young, sexually driven (testosterone) and, at the time, very curious.
A little later I joined a Femdom mailing list where I met others who role-played or dressed up. I even corresponded by e-mail with two women who enjoyed being dominant. One told me she had turned that way after having been educated in a convent. That is, the nuns and sisters struck her as authoritarian.
Basically, on this theme, I do not talk from ignorance. Past experience and psychology helped me shape fairly sensible views (I hope) on the topic.
My take is this: Sexuality is part of your nature and, sometimes, it will evolve from "vanilla sex" to kink, role-play and fetish. What I figure is important is not to either resist or over indulge it. Resistance tends to lead to inner tension or guilt and compulsion. Thus, if you, for example, yearn to be kissing some lady's boots - and so forth - that is simply reality at that time of life. In some cases, it's probably wise to just get it out of the system. However, I also think these fetishes tend to feed and expand if allowed to become over important. Ultimately, it boils down to sex, which is an appetite same as love of wine or food.
Put simply: Yes, I still get turned-on sometimes by femdom but I just shrug it off as, so what? I also am fully aware that sexual fantasies may be a coping mechanism for some insecurity. For example men who fear not being seen to be in control may fantasise about losing control. The dominatrix sexualises the fear in a way it feels exciting or relaxing.
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Tue Feb 15, 2022 10:48 pm

To add, I grew out of this phase. That is, I don't spend my time reading adult stories and steaming up the windows with lustful thoughts. At the time I was into D/S, Madonna had been using the theme to do the Erotica album - and the movie Body Of Evidence. Later, Madonna grew out of it and got into spirituality via Kabalah.
Psychology in this area should help us gain control in our lives. The golden rule is, if you do choose to explore fetishes, or role play, be very wary of weirdos or unstable people. Many D/S people are normal professionals who are simply a bit kinky. That then is fine.
Also be aware that, often, kink may be a coping mechanism. It's known that many public school people who were regimented in strict schools, later became kinky, seeking role-play scenarios.
Oddly too, it turned out many kinky males tended to have higher intellect. It was claimed Steven Hawking was wired that way.
All in all it's not an issue so long as it doesn't bog down a person's life. Also for married couples it likely spices up the marriage
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Tue Feb 15, 2022 10:59 pm

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Postby rubber roger » Wed Feb 16, 2022 8:30 am

Hi David,
I'm both fem dom & a rainwear (ladies) & rubber fetishist (see my post last year) I largely agree with what you say. Once you get over the shame & guilt phase (& that can take years) just enjoy the additional arousal & stimulation.
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Wed Feb 16, 2022 2:21 pm

rubber roger wrote:Hi David,
I'm both fem dom & a rainwear (ladies) & rubber fetishist (see my post last year) I largely agree with what you say. Once you get over the shame & guilt phase (& that can take years) just enjoy the additional arousal & stimulation.


I think the small group I joined years ago had an aspect of humour. In those days they had mailing lists. You received an e-mail every week that included the various threads. If you chose to comment on a thread, it would appear in the next list. One or two members tried their hand at writing fantasy stories. These were always about men being dominated by women.
Around that time I read the book by Madonna's brother called "Life With My Sister Madonna" - Chris Cicceroni, I think. He stated Madonna was never actually into D/S but she stirred up a lot of scandal by publishing an erotica book and making the movie "Body Of Evidence". This latter was slammed by the critics.
As for me personally, when I'm attracted to females they still tend to be dominant types. It's known there are certain types of males who are wired to be submissive to females. Many tend to be nerds or scientists.
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Postby desperate788 » Wed Feb 16, 2022 3:01 pm

Needless to say but this is total disrespect
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Postby rubber roger » Thu Feb 17, 2022 9:13 am

Some further thoughts on rubber & rainwear fetishism. First, a disclaimer. I have no professional qualifications to write on this subject. Merely a lifelong interest (obsession?) with rainwear, particularly rubber or rubberized materials, but also with shiny PVC raincoats & especially women's rainwear. At a very rough estimate I have contacted 200 or more fellow fetishists over the years-----by mail, email, telephone & in person & had sexual relations with two or three dozen. All were male & I have never had contact with any female fetishist. Not saying there are none, merely stating my experience. Secondly, most but not all of those contacts were bisexual, largely by choice in order to have fetish sex. Some had wives or partners who accommodated or co-operated with them, but only men could share the fetish.I have always been bisexual & undoubtedly largely due to the need to have rubber & rainwear involved. My final point is that the "home" of rubber & rainwear fetishism is undoubtedly the UK, followed by Germany. Weather obviously plays a part, with probable paucity of rainwear lovers around the Persian Gulf. I live in New Zealand. If any members would like to have further discussion about this subject please contact me privately.
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Thu Feb 17, 2022 1:45 pm

leatherjoan wrote:I'm over 60 and been doing this since I was 9 or 10, mainly alone, but sometimes with a partner; and I have never understood what made me do this. I have a rubber raincoat fetish.

I grew up on LI with my parents and a sister. One day when I was home 'sick' during a thunderstorm and I went to the closet and took out both my sisters and my own hooded rubber slickers. They were knee length, front zips and hoods with drawstrings. I think every girl I knew back then had at least one. I have no idea why I did any of this. For some reason I zipped mine up and turned it inside out, Then I put hers over it, slipping the sleeves down inside each other, and zipped it up as well. Basically I had one rubber raincoat with rubber inside and out.

I went downstairs to the spare room, and laid the raincoats out on the bed. I took off my clothes and knelt down next to the coat and slid my arms and head into the bottom opening. Next I lifted my arms up and let the coat slide down over me so that the hoods were hanging in front of me. I took some time getting both zippers up to the top, it was important. Then I laid down on the bed and placed the hoods over my face and head, I pulled the drawstring on the outer hood tight and pulled it around my neck and tied it under my chin.

I still have no idea what possessed me to do any of this. I pulled the pillow down under my neck so I could get some air in around the back of my head and pulled the duvet cover over me. I started feeling myself and rubbing my breasts and crotch through the layers of rubber. This felt fantastic and must have gone on for half an hour or more. Suddenly it was getting much harder to breathe through the rubber hoods and I began squirming and rolling back & forth. My breathing got faster, I started to perspire and after a while I started to squirm and struggle; I think I spasmed and something inside exploded. It was like a powerful electric shock, but very very pleasurable. I untied the hoods and pulled them off my face. It was both overwhelming and terrifying. I never realized how dangerous it could have been nor how stupid I was to have tried it.The stickiness of the rubber, the way it gripped my face, head and neck, and the tightness achieved by rolling side to side had combined to give me my first orgasm. And, there was no going back.

That brings me to where I am today. Now, after having been through dozens of rubber slickers, (which are getting really hard to find), it's still my favorite way of solo pleasure. I was married for five years to a Brit (passed suddenly about ten years ago), and when I confided all of this to him, he was thrilled. Apparently rubber trench coats and raincoats (mackintoshes) are very big in the UK. When we vacationed in London he took me to a rainwear shop and had me fitted for a couple of long, heavy, latex lined rubber trench coat mackintoshes which still I wear to this day. One shiny black, the other gray, when buckled up tight, whether lying in bed or walking to the park, even sitting in church; the same feelings return. I have also purchased a lot of leather wear, trench coats to pants & shirts. That's because I like the look and feel of leather and its apparent normality. While it's not as obviously fetish based, I know people look.

He also introduced me to rubber and leather straitjackets, full suits and hoods made specifically for bondage and breath control. I was terrified when we opened the packages, but again, for reasons I still can't comprehend, I let him dress me, bind me, smother me and pleasure me. It was unbelievable with him in control; but rubber slickers have always been my go to way to get off. Sometimes I'll even sleep in them just for the feeling of safety and comfort I get. I even made some modifications to them to make it easier to masturbate.

In my small New England town, I've heard I'm called either the Rubber Widow or Leather Widow, depending on time and season and my style of dress. Has anyone else ever heard of this? I can't believe I'm the only one. As I said, I have no idea what made me do it the first time, but I'm still doing it today. And it drives me crazy wondering if I had not been home alone that day, if it had been a sunny summer day, or my mother had never bought us those rain slickers, how might my sexual development have gone. I have read extensively about this, and I believe Kraft-Ebbing wrote that the first recorded instance of a rubber mackintosh fetish was the case of a 19 year old British female.

I hope someone out there can help.

Thanks.


There is a big controversy over former actor David Carradine. David had apparently started experimenting in a similar direction but was found dead in Thailand. The official report was David had tied himself in some way and accidentally suffocated. Some claim he may have been murdered. It was all mysterious. Carradine starred in the series Kung Fu and starred in many martial arts movies. He acted with Jodie Foster when she was still just 12.
You can all find the account on Google.
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Thu Feb 17, 2022 1:49 pm

There's a short Beatles song called Polythene Pam, based on a real person. Pam was a transvestite who dressed in rubbery gear so Lennon wrote the short song for Abbey Road.
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Thu Feb 17, 2022 10:14 pm

"In 1980, Lennon said about "Polythene Pam": "That was me, remembering a little event with a woman in Jersey, and a man who was England's answer to Allen Ginsberg ... I met him when we were on tour and he took me back to his apartment and I had a girl and he had one he wanted me to meet. He said she dressed up in polythene, which she did. She didn't wear jack boots and kilts, I just sort of elaborated. Perverted sex in a polythene bag. Just looking for something to write about."[1] "England's answer to Allen Ginsberg" refers to Royston Ellis, an English writer whom John knew from when the Beatles played at the Cavern Club.[2] He also described the inspiration for the song as a "mythical Liverpool scrubber dressed in her jackboots and kilt".[3] The song is sung in a very strong Liverpudlian "Scouse" accent.[4] "

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Jq7VkBUQ2Xg
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Postby davidbanner99@ » Thu Feb 17, 2022 10:36 pm

Many years ago, I had this experience on a minibus. It was maybe two years before I became unwell with depression. We were on a group trip to France and there were two girls sitting on the seat behind me. One was blonde and the other had dark hair, slim and the daughter of a church minister. They were giggling a lot. At some point, one of the girls placed her feet over her coach seat and onto my neck. Then her friend did the same. Now, normally you would ask what the ++++ is going on and move away but the truth is I found it enjoyable. A lot of people specifically have feet fetishes although with me the fun was when females are in charge.
However, these days I tend not to indulge these scenarios. There is no moral objection at all - just that sex eats into time and only feels good briefly. It doesn't make you richer or fitter - unless you take up Karma Sutra.
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