Recently my husband and I found out that my MIL was basically living in squalor. She had hurt her back, and on a visit we found out she had no working toilet or shower. Her toilet fell through the floor. She was using trash bags to dispose of her toilet waste (a bio-hazard!). Not to mention her house has always been a mess, we are talking hoarder mess here.
Try as we might, we could not get her to get out of her house until last night. My birthday btw. She has been with us 24 hours now, and my life is a nightmare. First of all, when my son went to go her stuff and settle her into our home, she wanted to take a bath. My son suggested she take a shower. Well, due to her back issues, she said she couldn't stand in the shower that long. So, he suggested that he would go get a shower chair for her. She wouldn't hear to it. She said she would just sit on the side of tub and bathe off. Somehow, just sitting on the side of the tub, turned into a full bath! Of course she couldn't get herself out of the tub. My husband and I were at work, so my son was the only one there to help her out, and she's not a small woman at all! It took him 30mins to get her out of the tub. Needless to say, we have a shower chair now.
I got home and she proceeded to tell me this story, which I had already heard from my son. I told her that he should have just gone to get the chair, seeing as he could dive and she was the one that needed help. She refused dinner, but told us (my son and me, hubby was still at work) that we would have to help her get on the FLOOR to help her do her PT. Now this is a woman with bad knees and a bad back, that couldn't even lift herself out of the tub. How does she expect to get on the floor to do PT? I told her we would wait until husband came home, and he would help her. He was not pleased that I told her that. He wanted me to help, and I said she does not need to be on the floor period! She could do PT on a bed if needed.
MIL finally went to sleep around 9ish last night, finally some peace and quiet! I was able to watch TV all while she slept in my recliner. Which is where she plans to sleep! Husband says this will only be for 3-4 days, just until he gets her bathroom fixed. Well, her toilet fell through the floor. I fear this will become a permanent solution instead of a short term solution. This woman has always been controlling, and I don't want her to think she is the woman of the house in my own home.