junk food binge cycles

mute wrote:how can I stop this cycle of self destruction?

When you don't have stress take the time to "clean house" and set up an alternative coping mechanism than food, e.g. a stationary bike or the equivalent. By clean house I mean get rid of junk food and stock the fridge/shelves with healthy alternatives. When stressed make it a rule to disconnect from the Internet and to shut off your cell phone. Have alternative ways to spend your time, e.g. a few books you can read.

I do
I keep my apartment relatively clean and organized

and forcing myself to avoid junk food actually backfires
where I would have zero self control and buy and eat junk food and kinda black out
and then feel guilty right after
if I force myself to not eat junk food I will have something similar to nervous breakdown I will get physically sick

I have no willpower when im stressed out like my willpower is completely drained
the only way I can get over it is to crash and reset.
then the cycle starts over.
I will be good for few weeks and slowly degrade into same pattern again.

think of when your flashlight battery is dying and it turns off
so you wait few seconds and turn it back on. and it works for few more seconds and dies again
that's how my will power fees

Hi, I'm the same way. I'd like to know if you've found anymore information elsewhere or have had any success.

For me, it seems to involve an addiction to refined sugar. Yes, I love the poor quality fat and all the other unhealthy aspects of the junk food but essentially it's about the refined sugar and getting a spike in my blood sugar and presumably some rush of chemicals including dopamine in order to deal with the stress.

I have one tip that's helped me and that's to get some sweet fruit that's satisfying and eat that during the binge cycle. For example, I'll eat a lot of frozen berries instead of bingeing on junk. It's much healthier, I get the fiber benefit, and my cravings mostly subside without as big of a spike in my blood sugar. Sleep can still be disrupted since it's a lot of calories but it's not as bad as if I had eaten the junk.

I'm a runner, I meditate, I have de-plugging rules, I only eat super healthy foods, etc. but I can't seem to beat this and oh yeah, I have a history of medication and alcohol dependence. I got off all of that though and haven't been on anything for over a year and a half now.

I'm very interested in connecting with you or anyone who has experience. Please feel free to message me.

Junk food makes it workse, makes you anxious and then you crash.. Find some foods you like but don't contain a lot of sugars

I would advise you to try CBD oil!

mute, I first 'met' you when you'd been "married for 2 years and i want to bang anything that moves", viewtopic.php?t=108539

Will you catch me up? Here we have a new 'presenting problem' with no indication that the old one has been resolved. I take it by your mention of "my apartment" that you and your wife have now separated. Please let me know whether that's the case.

Thanks for sharing.

Still, even if the guy is a troll, it would probably be worth it to offer solutions, should someone who actually ahs that problem stumble upon that thread in the future.

being married to a narcissist for 10 years doesnt exactly bring out the best in you. it was a lonely donkey 10 years that i wasted all my energy trying to connect with her and only to be met with a brick wall every time
and the new wall next time.. eventually burned out and left... now recovering. with bunch of health problems...
including anxiety which i never had before.
growing up with a narcissistic patent then recovering a bit and jumping right into a narcisistic marriage really took a toll on me,

all this is spawning from my complete lack of self love. now that i think about it i literally have zero self care or self love skill.
i have now started to train myself and develop those two with a slow progress.

just like i mentioned in other post that a narcissist has no concept of rempathy. i had no concept of self love
so we were literally made for eachother lol.
i gave everything i had and she took it. until i had nothing left

im starting to realize that most if not all my issues are originating in that empty spot responsible for selfishness...
in other words when you are not taught healthy boundaries and self love and care your brain will still try to run an emergency program to at least gain some kind of boundaries.

so it shows in a person being very irritated
especially picky in very odd things or situatious, literally trying to set boundaries as a last resort because he cant set them properly like other people
also shows in you creting an incompatible with everyone else schedule.
like when everyone is going on a weekend trip you throw a fit and suddenly have things to do when eveyrone wants you to go.. its your brain setting an emergency boundary as a need to survive.