Hey guys,
I'm a 28 y/o guy and my mother is a bit overweight. When I was 16 or so, we were talking and the topic of weight and being overweight came up. I don't exactly remember the conversation, but at some point my mother jokingly said she hopes I end up with a fat girl, and, ,,, I basically lashed out and told her to bite her tongue. I felt bad immediately, but we never talked about it. And it's been eating me all these years. I don't think I can ever talk to her about it. I'm pretty sure she must still remember, because that's so hurtful one can hardly ever forget. She has said pretty hurtful things to me too, but they just don't balance each other out. We have a great relationship now, but I just can't shake off this guilt and how I hurt her. She is in her 50's now. Her relationship with my father isn't so good. I remember my father teasing and joking about marrying a thin woman. Which only means her weight was definitely a great source of insecurity. And the thought of me hurting her is just killing me. The problem is, I don't believe I can ever fix this and help her. I'm trying to be nicer to my 16 y/o self that was just a child, but that's just one side of the story.
Any comments or ideas?