Real Estate

How many times have you taken the test, and how many times are you allowed to take the test?

I have taken it 9 times and I can take it as many times as I want.

Linnclark wrote:I have been trying to get my real estate license for a few months now and I just can NOT pass the license test. It is beyond frustrating and I don't know what else to do. If I give up, I will totally let everyone down but I want to just give up

Take a break.

What do you mean you'll let everyone down? Why does anyone care so much that they would be let down about your own career choices?

Be aware that taking and passing the license exam is only to get your foot in the door of the industry. Real world working is different from classroom learning, and the exam is for the most part to know that you are up on the State and Federal laws regarding real estate.

If you're no longer interested in pursuing a career in real estate, you should let yourself off the hook. To make a success in anything that requires selling, one must have a strong belief in their own success and have a certain passion about what they are doing.

Nobody else is living your life. Who cares what they think.

Thank you. I mean that I will let my family down because once I pass I already have a job that will give me an extra $15k a year on my paycheck. My work is relying on me to pass because no one else can do what I need to do. (Meaning they dont want to train someone how when I already do but I am limited since I'm unlicensed) I have all this pressure to get it done and yes the $ will be real good but it is not something I want. If I dont get it, my work will let me go. My husband and I both work and hardly make ends meat and if I lose my job then we will be in real financial worrisome. I do not want to be in the position they are giving me but again the $ is good. I have anxiety about it every single day and it is so embarrassing when I have to tell everyone I failed again. I am not stupid but this test is hard

Well, that puts a different light on it.

Your employer wants you in a position that you aren't willing, nor at this point capable, to take. They don't want to train someone new, but it looks like that is what they will be doing.

Are you actively looking for another position? There are plenty of other real estate brokerages around.

By the way, per your deleted thread, you say that you do everything around the house and don't even ask that other household members help out. . . . AND they expect you to provide monetary support for their lifestyle? Am I getting this right?

Linnclark wrote:My work is relying on me to pass because no one else can do what I need to do.

Get someone there to work with you on the things you need to know in order to pass next time. Then, if it isn'r 10th time lucky, you probably need to reconsider your next career move.

Linnclark wrote: I do not want to be in the position they are giving me but again the $ is good.

No one forcibly put you in that position. You accepted that position as you thought the money was worth the misery. That’s a voluntary choice you made.

You seem to play victim (based on the deleted thread and now this thread). In psychological terms there is a concept called “self-handicapping”. This is where a person uses the “Woe is me, woe is me, look at all I must do in life,” narrative to protect their self image. If they fail to achieve a goal they have plenty of reasons already lined up.

It probably is a good idea for you to take a big step back and reflect on your fundamental values. Really take a hard look at how you are choosing to define who you are. You seem to really focus on defining who you are by what you think you must do for other people. This gives you a false sense of self worth. You seem to want to believe that but for you doing the chores and and bringing home the money, the world for these other people in your life would cease to turn.

Think of it another way. What would happen if you were simply gone? You are here today and vanish tomorrow. After your children, husband, and employer shed a few tears, what would happen? Would they be unable to move forward in life and become destitute vagabonds eventually forced into slavery to “make ends meet”? My guess is a resounding NO!

My guess, is that like every other human on the planet, they would grieve and then life would go on. You are not that important. None of us are so important that the world ceases to turn once we are no longer here.

Stop feeling like you constantly need to prove yourself. Don’t take the test again. It only leads to a continued life of self flagellation and you believing enough is never enough. It just leads to more misery.

My advice is that you need to answer the simple question, “What is enough?”

Once you establish what is enough for you, then have a conversation with your husband. Discuss what you believe is enough in life. He might disagree. Maybe his version of enough includes a yacht, vacations, college funds, retiring at age 50, etc. But his enough doesn’t have to be your enough. Your role in life isn’t to provide what others believe is enough.