Advice needed

**Posts:** 2 · by **Pheeu** » Tue Mar 26, 2013 8:52 am

I would like to introduce myself and need your advice..........

i got married 2years back at the age of 29 with a person working in a govt organisation posted in Lucknow. where as i am working in corporate in QA. After marriage i was residing with my parent for 10 months to continue my job. later i left and gone to my hubby.In Lucknow i tried to search a job for QA Profile but could not able to find any. At same time i was under depression and other medical problem. Later me my husband decided to look for a location where i can also work and live together. So i started searching a job in bangalore as this is only common location for both of us.He has also applied for the transfer to bangalore.
i came to bangalore in Aug'12 and living in PG and till date my husband is not able get the transfer to bangalore. i could not able to decide what should i do as we have to look for family expansion? We don't have a clear idea that by what time he will getting transfer. if i leave the job and go to lucknow and in case he got transfer, then i have to start everthing from scratch and managing things in single earning is also tedious in the city like b'lore and if i stay in bangalore then my family planning is on hold and on the same side i am also getting older year.
2) Impact on my CV if i have to leave the current job and after sometime i join again any organization. i have served my 1st organization for 4.5 years and second organization for 3 months, and in current organisation for last 8 months....

**Posts:** 4 · by **svmsudhir** » Tue Mar 26, 2013 6:02 pm

ok. please help me understand one thing here. How really important is your own professional CV against your personal life and satisfaction?
Let's resolve...The only culprit I see in your case is the constraint of you being so fixed about working as a QA person. You need to take a small step towards other opportunities and you will find yourself doing something else better than your current profile. For a professional, Lukhnow or Banglore.. or any other city does really matter? And especially when you are living with your beloved one?
Come on! you have already wasted 2 precious years of you and your hubby's lives. Now its time to compensate. Life never tells you its full story unless you read and turn over each page. Now it is expecting you to do so.
Pheeu, you need to set the priority and make a decision. For a moment lets consider that you get your dream job and live with your partner happily. Ok? But when you will go for your "Family Expansion" plan, you will be out of action for at least 8-10 months. And any company will consider this as a major concern while offering you a job or sustaining you. Then also you will face the same dilemma.
I would suggest the other way round.. you go where ever your husband is. Live together and enjoy life's boons (some are exclusively age-related). At the same time explore yourself and lookout for different opportunities to support your family financially. This world is large enough and there must be something one can do in any given place. You will be awed by the support you will get from your hubby and other family members..

So don't bother too much about your job profile or CV. Nothing is going to boost your spirits better than the togetherness (which your life is very much void of).
To sum up, just go to your husband now and enjoy life. Nothing else matters!!
All the BEST!

**Posts:** 2 · by **Pheeu** » Thu Mar 28, 2013 5:44 am

Thanks, svmsudhir for your advice.

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