I dont want to be angry anymore

The words that we say to ourselves and the pictures that we make in our mind, have a massive effect over the quality of our experience of the world.

It is possible to let go of angry thought patterns, it is possible to find more happiness in our lives, some of the most powerful tools include forgiveness of past hurts, acceptance of people for who they are, more self respect, more self appreciation, more self approval, being our own best friend.

We can look at diet, exercise, a balanced life, an attitude of gratitude, helping in our community, looking after our personal appearance and our living environment. There really is a huge amount we can do to change, to grow, to increase our knowledge, to increase our patience, to increase our awareness.

It's a journey that can involve a lot of change, sometimes people are ready for that, sometimes they are not, it's up to you. Good luck

I identify with you,for years I would say to self,"there MUST be another way!" And there is.
Like you,I did not want to get angry/aggressive,but I did not want to get stood on either--
soooo, I found a book on assertiveness. Only THIS one had a brilliant technique in it called-
FOGGING.
As you know,you can kick or throw a brick at the fog,and it won't harm it in the least.
Hence the name of this technique. The book has real life examples in it of real life conversations,
so its real easy to pick up. It is called,"When I say no,I feel guilty," by Manuel J. Smith.

Unfortunately,its out of print,but you will get it on the likes of Alibris or any other large book-
seller,second hand. Do get it,and put an end to your misery!
Kind Regards,
jimindigo

be angry. society sucks anyway.

i feel that a good potion of what people tell you not to be angry about you should be angry about. they just fear your aggression. maybe they fear your a aggression for a good reason, yes, but that doesn't make it your problem.

what's it you get angry about?

ps. the sad thing is ímportant i guess. anger is nothing but sadness. you get sad about something, and you want to change it because you cannot accept that negativity. so you get angry and by that try to change it. it's actually a healthy mechanism. maybe you could try to accept, however, your own sadness first and then the fact that there is stuff in the world that pisses you off. i feel that mostly when people fear my aggression it's because they fear their own violent reaction to the worlrd. doesn't make it my problem - sometimes you just have to piss people off before they understand what's going on. dunno. maybe that isn't at all what you want right now - this kind of statement - but i feel it may be exactly what you need. get people who accept you as you are, not people who in order to accept you need you to change the person you are.

i had a female friend a while ago - by now she's not my friend anymore - who reminds me a little of you. she was extremely angry and harmful towards others, and, most of the time, didn't care about it. i was actually able to contain her by making her see the perspective of others so she could accept this perspective as well. unfortunately at some point i became to hurt by her actions myself in order to deal with her accordingly; i wanted to keep her in my life, she nevertheless couldn't deal with me anymore.

even the most violent person knows a limit. i never met anyone who could be violent to a point where i shyed away. if you use your aggression in order to get what you want, it helps you in life instead of just hurting you. you just should know: most violence is silent and without big words. most violent behaviour isn't easily identified as such, but everybody uses it. identify it. you don't get angry for no reason.

the best for you. ^^

anger just isn't healthy for you, one little burst dampens your immune system for several hours, that's a scientific fact. Plus it don't make you more friendly.

You might consider keeping a diary to record the times when you feel anger. Does the anger that shoots up in your mind, happen randomly, or is it triggered by some external factor, say when things don't happen the way you want? Is your anger directed at some specific individual or set of circumstances? After so recording your observations for let's say a month, sit calmly for a while and reflect on what you have written. May be you will get an insight into the root of the problem?