Zuriel wrote:I think the lack of awareness indicates mental immaturity...let me reword...
Emotional maturity, IMO, is an inward maturity. It is not something we express to the tangible world. It is an evolution of the soul from not being aware and through life trials / observations, gaining awareness. It is not something any other person can give to us or take from us. It is an understanding and acceptance of our indivdual lives.
Mental maturity, IMO, is outwardly expressed. We speak kindly because we have learned how, we give to others because we have received, we demonstrate sympathy / empathy because we have learned to be considerate. If we are mentally immature, we cannot respond "properly" to stimuli.
You can be emotionally mature and not have a clue how to act. You can be mentally mature and be completely indifferent. The two, IMO, are seperate. They only seem to be connected because most people "act"(mental) on their feelings (emotional).
All simply my opinions. Each is entitled!
Certainly, we are each entitled to our own opinions!
I meant no disrespect, I hope you understand that.
I don't know... in my opinion, I cannot completely separate mental vs. emotional though they are undoubtedly two different things, if that makes sense! I guess a more clear way of putting it would be that i believe they each interact with one another.
I mean, if we look for example at someone who demonstrates a propensity towards seriously emotionally deficient behavior, say, someone who is a serial killer, they may for example be completely lacking in empathy though they intellectually understand that to remain under the radar in everyday life, they must at least fake it, as though they feel. They mimic a more proper emotional response when it suits them, for their end. However, only when it suits them, such as to appear "normal" or to keep their jobs or to not become a suspect, etc.
So I do believe that someone can be emotionally devoid of any sort of humanity but fake it when they need to, and when they do not need to, their intellectual understanding of what is emotionally "proper" goes by the wayside, and they act in a deviant fashion, although they DO in fact have a mental/intellectual understanding of what is and is not acceptable in general. Does that make sense?
Also, I do see emotional maturity expressed outwardly, though again of course we all have our own opinions on the matter and that is just fine! It is life, no one will agree 100% on things 100% of the time.
For example, someone who is particularly tuned in to the emotions of others may hold back although they may really want to say something... not because they are particularly afraid of the consequences, not because they do not feel hurt and even justifiably so, but rather because emotionally they understand where someone is coming from and so they choose for a variety of reasons to let it go or be.
I don't necessarily speak kindly because I have learned how to, although the discussion of how much we learn affects our behavior versus the natural capacity we have for understanding anything be it emotional or intellectual etc, is an entirely different conversation! I do think people have a varying capacity to be emotionally or mentally mature naturally, and that we are also influenced by our surroundings and experiences.
To clarify a bit, I know people who have always tended to be very intellectually intelligent, and people who have always tended to be emotionally intelligent. Some are inclined to think more than they feel, and vice versa. This is where I link the two to a degree in many people... some people will rationalize their emotions, others will think about something intellectually and then figure out how to feel about it. Perhaps I am not putting this well, but my basic point is that sometimes it can be hard to draw a clean line between thoughts and feelings.
Peace!