Hi-This is the first time that I am writing. I have read some of the posts and realize that I might need some advice.
I am getting married this October and I couldn't be happier. My fiance and I get along amazaingly 99% of the time. But over the past year and a half he has been changing. He gets extremly angry over small things. I refer to it as kind of a blind rage. Its almost like he doesn't see me standing there, like he looks right through me. Now this has only happened about 4 times, but in these 4 times he pushes me, throws things and says the meaniest things that I have ever heard.
Up until the other day this has not happened recently, but it did happen again. Now one thing you should know is that he is extremly drunk when this happens. But in my mind that is not an excuse.
He normally doesn't drink much and we hardly ever go out to bars. I work in one first of all and that is the last place I want to be. But he works a lot of hours and we usually just want to rent movies and stay home.
The last time that this happened, we were at my work with all my friends and my brother. They all saw him go insane I missed most of it because I went outside to the car after he pushed me.
To make matters worse on of my friends who knew nothing about the problems before called my parents. They automatically are thinking the worst. They think that he beats me and punches me and that I am a battered woman, which I know is not the case. I know what he does is wrong but he doesn't purposly hurt me. Like I said it is only when he is extremly intoxicated.
The problem that I havce is I am not sure what to do about this. We called a psychologist this morning to make an appointment, but I guess I just don't really understand "anger management" and if thats what he needs.
I am really at a loss- I don't know what to think. I do know that sometimes I can provoke his anger-I can be mean myself but its usually out of defense. I guess I just need advice on what exactly to do and what I am dealing with.
Kins