I am 23 years old, my parents tell me have always had this poison inside me when it comes to anger, since I was about 4. I am the same as my Dad, our temprement is uncanny, he has always been prone to angry outburts for the slightest little thing.
As I have got older I have recognised this and gradually dealt with it before it erupts, however, just started a new relationship with a lovely guy and I flipped, I had quite a lot to drink (half litre Jack Daniels) and want to know am I the only one? Is it possible for anger to take hold of you when you are not looking? I talk to people close to me and they tell me I am so placid and funny, always making people laugh and fun to be with so why does this happen just when you don't want it to? Maybe it's my way of letting him know that there is this side to me and maybe sometimes it does rear its ugly head. He tells me I am the most beautiful girl he has ever met, now he thinks he's got Jekyl and Hide for a girlfriend. How do I reassure him that this is a part of me I can control (to an extent) Shall I promise to limit my alcohol intake? Anyone else find this problem, you can control it in balanced mind but anebriated one it goes pear shaped? Or will time and patience prevail? Any comments would be kindly received.
Enraged Anebriated Outburst
4 posts
• Page 1 of 1
by peaceful_mind? » Mon Mar 14, 2005 3:57 pm
- peaceful_mind?
- New Member
- Posts: 4
- Joined: Mon Mar 14, 2005 3:42 pm
- Likes Received: 0
by dazedandconfused » Mon Mar 14, 2005 5:30 pm
hi, hey read my posts on the 'anger and paranoia' thread. like you my actions are learnt behaviour from family . i have found very recently that the best thing to do is explain....i.e say "i get angry about stuff sometimes...i know i go over the top..the best thing for you to do is.."
last night was funny when i spoke to my man because i thought i was being calm but i was still being intimidating and aggressive! he went home cos i had stressed him so much!
jack daniels!! haha! i have had a few moments on that, hitting friends and kicking walls!
if you want to talk on msn, give me your email.
its shitty, but i think the best thing to do is explain.
last night was funny when i spoke to my man because i thought i was being calm but i was still being intimidating and aggressive! he went home cos i had stressed him so much!
jack daniels!! haha! i have had a few moments on that, hitting friends and kicking walls!
if you want to talk on msn, give me your email.
its shitty, but i think the best thing to do is explain.
- dazedandconfused
- New Member
- Posts: 18
- Joined: Fri Mar 11, 2005 5:44 pm
- Likes Received: 0
by peaceful_mind? » Tue Mar 15, 2005 11:24 am
Hi dazed thanks for your comments, read your thread, I hope things with you and your man get better.
I think the problem is that he doesn't know me very well and I suppose we've only spent about just over a week in each others company. I live in the south of england he lives in the south of ireland so it's difficult to conduct a relationship over such a distance. I think it stems from my previous relationships, me thinking he's going to be like them, so the slightest hint of anything resembling that and I think oh here we go again. I don't think it's going to work so I shouldn't worry too much about the whole thing. We usually speak everyday but he hasn't phoned since saturday and I think he is not worthy of a lovely girl like me! So it's his loss. I've been to see him 3 times now, he's coming over at easter, very reluctantly, only for my sake as he puts it. The irish are so laid back it can be confused with not caring. who knows, easter will be the acid test and we'll know then.
I've been reading up on buddhism and the whole approach to life from their way of beleifs, it's amazing how inspiring it can be. have a look at www.anger-management-techniques.org. I can't PM you as I haven't posted enough, i'll keep you posted though, thanks x x
I think the problem is that he doesn't know me very well and I suppose we've only spent about just over a week in each others company. I live in the south of england he lives in the south of ireland so it's difficult to conduct a relationship over such a distance. I think it stems from my previous relationships, me thinking he's going to be like them, so the slightest hint of anything resembling that and I think oh here we go again. I don't think it's going to work so I shouldn't worry too much about the whole thing. We usually speak everyday but he hasn't phoned since saturday and I think he is not worthy of a lovely girl like me! So it's his loss. I've been to see him 3 times now, he's coming over at easter, very reluctantly, only for my sake as he puts it. The irish are so laid back it can be confused with not caring. who knows, easter will be the acid test and we'll know then.
I've been reading up on buddhism and the whole approach to life from their way of beleifs, it's amazing how inspiring it can be. have a look at www.anger-management-techniques.org. I can't PM you as I haven't posted enough, i'll keep you posted though, thanks x x
- peaceful_mind?
- New Member
- Posts: 4
- Joined: Mon Mar 14, 2005 3:42 pm
- Likes Received: 0
by dazedandconfused » Tue Mar 15, 2005 4:47 pm
I think it stems from my previous relationships, me thinking he's going to be like them, so the slightest hint of anything resembling that and I think oh here we go again.
exactly how i feel. me and my ex were, towards the end of the relationship contstantly shouting and swearing. its almost as though it feels like you want to get your jab in first because its what you have come to expect.
yeah like with my man , i don't know him that well because we haven't spent that much time face to face. i think its then that the misunderstandings kick in, because you aren't as solid as a unit as you could be and it leaves too much open to interpretation.
- dazedandconfused
- New Member
- Posts: 18
- Joined: Fri Mar 11, 2005 5:44 pm
- Likes Received: 0
4 posts
• Page 1 of 1