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Lol well that was shorter LOL..Anyway I get your point.. People do not generally read, and when they do it is at 8th grade level...so we need to spell it out in simple terms,,,I am in the process of setting up an online coaching program where i will have lessons,as well as live Q & A.

Have a nice weekend
Joe

Oh, Joe, let me know how that online coaching program goes. PM me and let me know what's going on... okay?

You might have received many better responses till the time.. Still I would suggest you few..

I am also really very short tempered and see nothing helps me around when it comes to anger.
My friends have suggested me to many things which I tried to followed, most common was counting the numbers when you start getting angry . But unfortunately I get angry so instantly that I never achieved it. Then I started searching for the things.

I came to the conclusion that, only one who can help you in controlling your anger emotion is YOURSELF.

I think the main reason behind your anger is your unhappiness. When you are mentally not happy or relaxed you get irritated and frustrated very soon. and then you react with rage..

To avoid this -
1. Start taking inventory of your anger : You must be getting angry when you sit idle for long time, when your brain is not working for long. So start noticing such times. keep your brain active do productive things which will keep you busy.

2. Avoid talking when you are angry : Whenever you feel that you are getting angry, just let the other person know you that you will talk on the topic later when you are calm. Divert your mind and cool your brain.

3. Chant the relaxing words : (some one has already suggested this to you I guess) Start telling your self to RELAX, talk to yourself that you are not angry, you are very sweet and adorable person who can control your anger. and chat the relaxing words like - RELAX, CHILL, CALM DOWN etc. You survey for yourself and make a note of things which makes you calm..

That's it to say. If you need more help you can PM me anytime.

Dear Mr. Prior:

there are a number of very good Books about Anger Management, and then some very good books on "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy" which works really well on Anger.

Why rely entirely on your own experiences and hunches... and, admittedly, you DO have some valid Ideas... but the Books have 20 or 30 Good Hunches and pieces of very good Advice, for your every one.

I suggest going on line to that 'Big On Line Book Distributor... that sells everything else now" and read over the reviews and buy what you think are the best three books. And Read Them. Indeed, everyone with Anger Issues should do the same. it seems silly to full back on your own un-informed 'virginal' thoughts and reflections, when so many people, including Psychologists who have treated Angry Patients for years, have written well thought out books.

Right!? You must agree with me on this. You seem so reasonable.

Dear Mr. Volont,

I absolutely agree with you. I had just put in my opinion to help the other person. The final decision is absolutely up to the person. Isn't it ?

and yes there are lots of good books to read and I have taken help from those books as well.

You seems to be very experienced and good writer. I gone through your few replies yesterday. I liked them all.