Speaking at a funeral

**Posts:** 1792 · by **theforsaken** » Sat Jan 19, 2013 7:25 am

I don't think about it often, but probly one of my greatest fears is the that one day I'm gonna have to speak at a funeral.

It's probly a f***ed up thing to worry about being a funeral and all, but obviously I've never done it yet so I wouldn't know.

I'm not a people person, I absolutely hated giving presentations back in school and sh**, I found it SO hard to make my presentation long enough, and to not sound stupid. Then when you're up giving it, you're worried you look stupid, everyone is judging you, etc etc, I feel giving a speach at a funeral would be all these things times 10, and with the added sadness of the lost loved one, I feel like I couldn't do it. it would just be too much.
but I also feel like if it's one of my parents or something, I'm gonna have to.

I wouldn't want to start sobbing and sh** in the middle of a speach, but I also wouldn't wanna stand there just saying it all coldly like some robot.

But yeah the thought worries me, I think in that situation I would actually feel physically sick with all that intense sh** going on in my head.

**Posts:** 35 · by **studentinneed** » Sat Jan 19, 2013 11:55 am

theforsaken wrote:I don't think about it often, but probly one of my greatest fears is the that one day I'm gonna have to speak at a funeral.

It's probly a f***ed up thing to worry about being a funeral and all, but obviously I've never done it yet so I wouldn't know.

I'm not a people person, I absolutely hated giving presentations back in school and sh**, I found it SO hard to make my presentation long enough, and to not sound stupid. Then when you're up giving it, you're worried you look stupid, everyone is judging you, etc etc, I feel giving a speach at a funeral would be all these things times 10, and with the added sadness of the lost loved one, I feel like I couldn't do it. it would just be too much.
but I also feel like if it's one of my parents or something, I'm gonna have to.

I wouldn't want to start sobbing and sh** in the middle of a speach, but I also wouldn't wanna stand there just saying it all coldly like some robot.

But yeah the thought worries me, I think in that situation I would actually feel physically sick with all that intense sh** going on in my head.

Well speak from your heart so you won't loose yourself in some silly speech, Speak slowly and breath, don't make to much eye contact as this will only make you cry, but do look at people so they know that you are talking to them not at them, also try to avoid swearing

**Posts:** 1792 · by **theforsaken** » Sat Jan 19, 2013 12:47 pm

studentinneed wrote:
theforsaken wrote:I don't think about it often, but probly one of my greatest fears is the that one day I'm gonna have to speak at a funeral.

It's probly a f***ed up thing to worry about being a funeral and all, but obviously I've never done it yet so I wouldn't know.

I'm not a people person, I absolutely hated giving presentations back in school and sh**, I found it SO hard to make my presentation long enough, and to not sound stupid. Then when you're up giving it, you're worried you look stupid, everyone is judging you, etc etc, I feel giving a speach at a funeral would be all these things times 10, and with the added sadness of the lost loved one, I feel like I couldn't do it. it would just be too much.
but I also feel like if it's one of my parents or something, I'm gonna have to.

I wouldn't want to start sobbing and sh** in the middle of a speach, but I also wouldn't wanna stand there just saying it all coldly like some robot.

But yeah the thought worries me, I think in that situation I would actually feel physically sick with all that intense sh** going on in my head.

Well speak from your heart so you won't loose yourself in some silly speech, Speak slowly and breath, don't make to much eye contact as this will only make you cry, but do look at people so they know that you are talking to them not at them, also try to avoid swearing

Can't help swearing, I'm an Aussie, it's in my blood. lol.

**Posts:** 1792 · by **theforsaken** » Sat Jan 26, 2013 1:39 am

Origgiffini wrote:I am final, I am sorry, but I suggest to go another by.

What?

**Posts:** 110 · by **Lamman** » Sun Jan 27, 2013 3:24 am

depends on the relationship you have with the person, you may or may not feel emotional about them. and sometimes it's just such a shock to learn the person you love has passed away to feel any emotion. people won't think anything of you because making a speech at a funeral says how much you care. it's a special speech which you choose to dedicate it to the deceased, as long as you think it's heart felt then, it's enough, isn't it?

**Posts:** 1 · by **robertascarlet** » Tue Jan 29, 2013 9:33 am

Great Speech! I recently attend funeral of someone arranged by Killeen Funeral Home, the person speaks on funeral was really gather all the attention of people at funeral.

**Posts:** 7 · by **cloudia432** » Thu Feb 07, 2013 4:43 am

thanks.

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**Posts:** 14 · by **Tina Sibley** » Wed Apr 10, 2013 5:24 pm

If you're required to speak at a funeral, you will have a little time and the best thing is to prepare a simple, heartfelt speech so you know what to say, but don't over-rehearse, so it sounds natural. As one of the others said, don't worry too much about emotion or even crying as that just shows how much you care.

**Posts:** 33 · by **mickolica** » Sat Apr 13, 2013 5:44 pm

theforsaken wrote:I don't think about it often, but probly one of my greatest fears is the that one day I'm gonna have to speak at a funeral.

It's probly a f***ed up thing to worry about being a funeral and all, but obviously I've never done it yet so I wouldn't know.

I'm not a people person, I absolutely hated giving presentations back in school and sh**, I found it SO hard to make my presentation long enough, and to not sound stupid. Then when you're up giving it, you're worried you look stupid, everyone is judging you, etc etc, I feel giving a speach at a funeral would be all these things times 10, and with the added sadness of the lost loved one, I feel like I couldn't do it. it would just be too much.
but I also feel like if it's one of my parents or something, I'm gonna have to.

I wouldn't want to start sobbing and sh** in the middle of a speach, but I also wouldn't wanna stand there just saying it all coldly like some robot.

But yeah the thought worries me, I think in that situation I would actually feel physically sick with all that intense sh** going on in my head.

you do not have to worry. Write your speech on peace of paper and read it. In my country everyone does it like that.

**Posts:** 33 · by **deemark67** » Mon Apr 29, 2013 8:11 am

Yeah, I agree...I don't usually advocate reading from a written script, but I think a funeral's different. Write it out, practice it, and read it clearly and with however much emotion is needed. It doesn't have to be long.

**Posts:** 52 · by **legacyinthemakingmagazine** » Mon Jun 03, 2013 7:54 am

Don't think about who is judging you or how are you looking..It will only discourage you..Just speak from your mind..And feel the difference..

**Posts:** 56 · by **Chau Nguyen** » Tue Jul 16, 2013 2:28 am

theforsaken wrote:I don't think about it often, but probly one of my greatest fears is the that one day I'm gonna have to speak at a funeral.

It's probly a f***ed up thing to worry about being a funeral and all, but obviously I've never done it yet so I wouldn't know.

I'm not a people person, I absolutely hated giving presentations back in school and sh**, I found it SO hard to make my presentation long enough, and to not sound stupid. Then when you're up giving it, you're worried you look stupid, everyone is judging you, etc etc, I feel giving a speach at a funeral would be all these things times 10, and with the added sadness of the lost loved one, I feel like I couldn't do it. it would just be too much.
but I also feel like if it's one of my parents or something, I'm gonna have to.

I wouldn't want to start sobbing and sh** in the middle of a speach, but I also wouldn't wanna stand there just saying it all coldly like some robot.

But yeah the thought worries me, I think in that situation I would actually feel physically sick with all that intense sh** going on in my head.

You're thinking of all the possible things that could go wrong.

It's like someone getting in a car and thinking of all the ways they could get into an accident...before they even left the garage.

**Posts:** 7 · by **longhotsummer** » Sat Jul 27, 2013 12:16 am

I did this recently and it can be a terrifying thing to do! I am continuing to pick up tips from this useful Forum. I hope one day to be able to control my fears.

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