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I’ve made the first, second, third and fourth move. She’s not interested in working things out. Just wants to tell different stories to different people. If we talk she has to face her lies.

Thank you. Although my daughter had shut out nearly all her old friends and family, the typical reaction of many outsiders is: look at your self buddy, you caused this. You need to up your game. One by one other family members found out they were on her do not call list and asked why me? What did I ...

I think it’s time to call it a Mexican standoff.

Quietvoice normally I would reply but you are so funny. You advise me that I don't own my daughter and she is free to communicate with whomever she wants - or not and I have to respect that and if I don't like that then go meditate or find a hobby.. This whole parent, child, family stuff doesn't cou...

Leo I found your comments to be constructive and thought provoking. I have begun researching cognitive therapy. I guess that means you’re released. Thanks.

Quiet voice: I have shown great concern for Samantha in the past. When she had open heart surgery, I took vacation and flew to be with her. When she messed up getting a loan to buy house, I offered to give her a short term loan. I have helped her in many ways. When she needed me I was there. That's ...

Quietvoice: I'll try to make it simple. You own slaves. My daughter is not my slave. We have a relationship. I am responsible for half of that relationship. I do not need grief counseling at the moment because the relationship is back on track at this time People tend to get emotionally invested in ...

Oh yeah and then there was the time we drove 500 miles to see her at Xmas time. Had a pleasant visit and gave her money to help dig her out of a hole. Came back and she’d written a blog on why would she bother seeing people at Xmas that she wouldn’t say two words to the rest of the year? Then she wo...

Yes my older daughter used to tell me I wasn’t listening. So I told her what I thought she was trying to tell me and asked did I get it right? Then I asked her to tell me what my position was. She couldn’t answer. I asked who’s not listening. Her attitude was if you’re not giving me what I want ($ f...

Okay I will take your suggestion and research cognitive therapy, but I’m not sure if you’re saying it will solve relationship problems with daughter, sister, resentment or all the above. My daughter has cut off herself off from most of the family, old friends and much of society so I’m not sure I ca...

Leo one more thing. Samantha used to lecture me that "I know you've had terrible arguments, but you have to put that behind you". I'd reply "No you don't understand, (cognitive impairment), We haven't had big arguments. Carolyn doesn't argue. She holds it in and posts it on her blog t...

To Quiet Voice: I haven't and wouldn't tell my daughter not to associate with my sister. Have told my sister that the most important thing is I have my own opportunity to deal with my daughter without interference from her. She thought she had all the answers, but when it backfired, she left me hold...

It would be great if I could wave a wand, compartmentalize and forget about this, but I'm not good at compartmentalizing. My mind works like pac man looking at various avenues. And I can't grasp how a person that can be so caring in certain directions can be heartless in others. Is that how we cope ...

Cliff Notes: My wife and I have had a difficult time dealing with our daughter over an 8 year period beginning during the time she was in college. She seemed to have a radical change in behavior and exhibited signs of borderline personality disorder. There was this pattern of us visiting her in the ...