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The private detective idea is one I just looked into based on your recommendation. I'm not sure having a stranger knock on my dad's door would elicit a direct or candid response. Your assumption is that my dad would give the detective the time of day, answer his question, and answer it honestly. A r...

There is a possibility of a slippery slope. That's why I included having OCD.

Hi Richard,

I sent a text to my dads real number a few weeks ago, and it was marked as read. My understanding of mail services are that he coukd deny or accept and not actually read it anyways. Im unaware what a private detective could do outside of verifying his info action or address.

Good morning, I contacted my sister again on Saturday, and she offered to do a mass email but she said I may not get a reply. She said she needed to think about whether I could probe for a yes or no. Sunday I meditated a bit and I realized I was conflating wanting a relationship with my dad and want...

That's the most dramatic example of epigenetics I'v heard of.

I need to look up therapists to meet online. Do you have any recommendations, or categories I should appeal to in my search for one?

Nope, only evidence that he did at some point in the past. I can't shake the sense that maybe some level of contact could be good for both of us, but it's mostly personal. I feel like I owe it to myself to know my fear isn't holding me back, and that maybe I can have a fuller understanding of myself...

Well I was asked to sit and wait until after the 4th of July and a great uncle's 80th surprise birthday party, haha.

I was thinking today I could construct a message for my sister to deliver to her mom. Perhaps a message that asked for some kind of direct yay or nay from my dad.

I don't know, but hopefully sooner rather than later, as the stress has been unbearable. The current plan is wait until after 4th of July then circle back if I haven't received contact. my sister passed on that I had been trying to contact him. Any reason he hasn't responded is just conjecture. I am...

Hi Richard, I didn't seek clarity for 8 months. I think the timeline is getting muddled. I should probably start using the reply editor function that you do to make my comments easier to understand. It's been more of an on and off thing, where I earlier assumed he had received my messages, then I re...

5 to last sentence: "I realized I needed to take a mroe confrontational stance with my anxiety disorder.."

Hi Richard, I'm actually not afraid of his rejection. I'm afraid of his acceptance and having a relationship with him in the first place. The 8 month span only really counts given the premise that he received my messages to begin with, which I'm being told is an unlikely event by my step-sister, whi...

I'm glad you brought up the timing of the last post. I felt like you were talking past me, and I can see where it's gotten muddled. I believed my dad had received my messages 8 months ago, but I wasn't sure. I located my step-sister on Facebook, and she brought up how terrible he was with checking h...

The first time I got in touch with my step-sister, she informed me that the number I had contacted wasn't in use, and she gave me his number before contacting them herself. I was the one who thanked her for assisting me and assumed he didn't want to speak to me. She was the one who insisted that was...

I hear you. Unfortunately, I can't come to terms with your underlying premise. I've been in situations where I was putting in 60-70 hours a week, and it didn't mitigate my anxiety, which tells me that a fear of work is not the underlying cause. If I can't trust your premise, then I can't come to ter...

One more thing: could you provide me with any resources in line with the psychiatric help you referenced? Because I am moving, I don't actually have a therapist at the moment. That's why I appealed to this forum.