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Hi Benjarino, Let me tell you about an experience from my life, which looks at this from the other side of the equation. About 10 years ago, I was in my mid 40's, amicably divorced with three children (one adult, two teenagers). I met a woman a few years younger than me, and we started to fall in lo...

You do appear to be over-reacting, since no actual bad consequences ever occur. I suspect that you are remembering traumatic events relating to someone else (possibly even yourself) who drank too much, and becoming fearful / expecting the same to happen when your bf drinks (although it never actuall...

Hi NinjaWriter99, It sounds to me as if you are conflating two things, which synergy is increasing your anxiety about both. Firstly, you mention that you are going to college next year, and imply that you will be leaving the family nest. I suspect that you are mostly excited about this adventure, bu...

Hi chessman6500, Welcome to the forum. I think that you have identified a few ideas within your post that may be helpful in achieving and maintaining your happiness. Firstly, you identified that you find the company of fellow sufferers of Asperger's (and other 'learning disabilities') easier and mor...

Hi archangel1776, Welcome to the forum. From the information in your post, it doesn't sound like you are suffering from depression - rather it seems like you have several concrete problems that are combining to make you unhappy, coupled with anxiety and difficulty with making important decisions, an...

Hi WinterWind85, Just to let you know, that the way you feel is completely normal. Anyone in your position would feel the same way, to a lesser or greater extent. The emotion of Jealousy (for that is what it is) is a very strong one, because it acts in defence of the survival of our children. Unfort...

Hi maggie28, I am a father of three daughters, about whom I frequently make mean and potentially belittling jokes (which is in keeping with the harsh British sense of so-called humour). However, it has always been absolutely clear to all parties that these were intended as counter-factual jokes (in ...

Hi psyoptica2, Unfortunately, the issue of the efficacy of antidepressants is not a simple one. A few years ago, this study ( http://lefnet.hu/resources/userfiles/file/tudomany/KeriSzabolcsCikkGyujtemeny/Fournier%20JAMA2010.pdf , was widely mis-represented in the media, headlining that "antidep...

Hi jmclark1, What an inspiring message! :D ... and someday my Fairy Tale Life I would recommend a book called 'Are you the one for me?' by Barbara De Angelis, which is surprisingly insightful about how to recognise a potential soul-mate. I completely agree with you regarding how helpful it is to hav...

Hi tbh_idgaf, No, it will not ruin your relationship with your brother. However, I would suggest that you keep the matter private from your family (and anyone else who could reveal the matter to them). This is not because there is anything wrong or abnormal about your fantasy, but rather because its...

Hi ballardcw, Welcome to the forum. I suspect that a large part of the anxiety that you are feeling may be down to inherent 'shyness'. It may help you to find out your Myers Briggs Personality Type http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp Shyness is an element of the 'Introspective' type. Eve...

Hi Unknown456, No-one on the forum will provide you with advice as to how to end your life, for 3 reasons: 1. Many other forum members suffer from Depression (myself included), and are cursed by unwanted suicidal thoughts. Discussion of suicide methods will be uncomfortable, upsetting and frightenin...

Hi wwehbk, You are in breach of the rules of the forum, specifically: •Do not discuss religion or politics on the board. Please take a few minutes to read the rules ( which you will find here http://www.uncommonforum.com/rules.php ), before you post again. Please can we end this discussion regarding...

Salut Rougeakai, et beinvenue au forum, I am English, and I lived in France for about a year, when I was a young man. So, I know how it feels to struggle with a language. I also know that it just keeps getting better - especially around 6 months in, when you start to dream in the new language. What ...

Hi Terry94, Although we have got big brains, humans are animals, and so have evolved behaviours just like the birds and the bees. Just like other animals, our mating rituals are the most seemingly bizarre and incomprehensible, until we subject them to some deeper analysis. Firstly, it is worth notin...