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So, she apparently read this thread recently and messaged me about it last night. She told me she felt it was very one-sided and filled with "half-truths." So, seems like once again, I have done something wrong, even though my whole purpose of starting this was for us to get help. I even a...

Have you ever seen a woman drinking for a man? From all the research I've seen, generally speaking, men and women tend to stand on equal ground in regards to emotions. Women tend to be more expressive of emotions because of cultural and social norms, but men feel just as much as them. As far as the...

I had the some illusion i think my girlfriends cant do without me and come back crying..im wrong every time :mrgreen: The question I would be asking myself at that point would be why are they leaving in the first place and what am I lacking that makes them leave without ever even looking back? I am...

I sometimes think my ex who married an other man. Now i think that i havent really loved her anytime. I was just very sick and it was a silhoutte passing by. I was thrown anywhere my limited understanding of the board sent me Now its 7 years i havent seen her and i dont care. Anyway is it possible ...

İt seems you loved her so much but everybody knows love doesnt last forever probably in every case. Its said to be 3 years at most. When people live under same roof its not possible to love eachother. I'd have to ask then... how do you have these old couples that have been together for decades, sti...

Why do you insist on this girl so much she is an ordinary woman, not a beauty Queen or something like that. Your insist a bit suspicious for me if you want my True opinion. Lol, nah I'd have no reason at all to lie. Not like I have anything to lose at this point anyway. To start, she was VERY attra...

Just makes me sad that there is that possibility that with her counselor now, she might fix herself… If you fix yourself, then you will no longer find her attractive. If you fix yourself then the “high standards” you have set that failed you will become a different version of those standards. She w...

“She” may feel differently about how you see her behavior and what she chooses to or not to do. My point, it’s easy to identify the liabilities in others or in causes and conditions. The bottom line is: what will you do about your own conduct and decisions therein? You get to decide what is accepta...

Ascendant78 its understandable to be reflective when you're so fresh from the break. But I agree with Tokeless, that you would be well served to let go of sorting through her garbage and focus on your own back yard here. What got you in trouble was only seeing her side of things instead of just see...

I'm pleased the right decision was made, but she's still effecting you because are seeing her as a victim of herself and you as the victim of her. It doesn't matter who she meets yet, it doesn't matter if she ever finds happiness... she is no longer with you and by reading the thread, you should be...

Livetowin, thanks for your feedback. I completely get what you're saying. I honestly don't know how I fell for it. It was such a subtle transition from her accepting blame, to putting it all on me. And she was SO convincing! She'd brag about how high her emotional IQ is, and how no matter what I tel...

** UPDATE ** For starters, thank all of you for your feedback here. It was VERY helpful and insightful. We finally broke up for good this past weekend. I covered it here in case you care to see: https://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=110053&p=929959&sid=516b3b313e070bae0da6901afb16e83...

I have very high standards, ones that she well more than meets and I told her numerous times, but she just dislikes that I "set the bar so high." What do you all think? Did I screw up here? Was it reasonable to have a list of topics you can't talk about? Was it wrong of me to say I was di...

Ok, I wrote a previous topic on here about the issues between a girlfriend and me. Since the last post, we split up. Again. I don't want to rehash all in detail, but I wanted to hear other people's opinions on this. To sum up the issues leading into this, my girlfriend is sensitive about a LOT of to...

Thank you again for your feedback. I completely get what you're saying. We have worked on setting boundaries on both sides to mitigate the problems. Prior to her depression, things were working great. Some hiccups from time to time, but the depression definitely increased conflict again. I know I ca...