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Part of bulimia comes from the need to have some sort of control over your life. It is a complicated problem. Many people use food as a comfort measure, then get upset that they are gaining weight. Bulimics take it one step further. They can eat, but then retain control by regurgitating what they ju...

You have heard one side of the story. There may be too. And I really hope you don't think that animals don't have feelings. That isn't what this is about? Maybe not. After you die, don't come back as a dog.

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Dogs are living, breathing creatures that deserve stable homes. She might be attached to it through taking care of it. (the daughter not the mother). Secondly, how is she supposed to stop her mother from brining home yet another dog? I agree that there is a mother daughter issue here, but getting ri...

I don't know if this applies to your Mom or not. There are people who feel bad, depressed, empty, whatever, and that if they can just do this or have that, it will fix all the problems. For a while it does, but then they become overwhelmed with whatever is bothering them and leave what ever or who e...

Are you kidding? That sounds almost cruel. I would think it would make the child uncomfortable and the parents as you say, in competition. I guess give equal weight to something you are proud of your child for with what you think your child will feel the most comfortable. Is this something you can t...

Leo, coming from someone who stays as far away from shrinks as possible, the only thing I am recommending is that he not try adding a chemical that may have an adverse effect. Penicillin is a great drug. It would kill me. All I am saying is that he may have a reason other than a chemical or brain ab...

Although Sal is right abut not going back, your later post about not understanding why you did the things you did changes that alittle. Going back and ripping your life apart won't help because you have no direction to start in and its likely to make you turn on yourself. There seems to be something...

Nadia, even if you can't control your thoughts, can you catch yourself every or most times that your mind starts to think about the condition. that is the fist step in stopping something. Realizing when you are thinking about it. Once you can catch yourself, try to replace that image with an image t...

Fantasy can be better than visualizing something on your computer. I used to think that porn was just two consenting adults having sex, probably faking it, but still consentual so it didn't matter. If you do watch a film, take a good look at their eyes. Usual the women's. Not only are they playing f...

I'm not trying to be flip here, but if you are going to develop this condition, and can't do anything about it, why waste the time you have without something that may not even happen being miserable? Life is just too short to not enjoy your time because of something you don't have?

Alex4

You can't cure the past or predict the future. That much is true. If there were not children involved, I would probably tell you something different, but they are. The moment you have kids, you stop living for yourself and start living for them. the way you and your spouse handle problems is going t...

I don't know if you can plan what you will say. the other person doesn't know the script and you wind up stumbling over your words. Be direct without accusing or smothering. Some guys will back off if they feel like they might be getting into a commitment they are not ready to make yet.

Alex4

cberhacker,
livetowin has good points. My father used to say "how do you know the author of the post isn't a dog". he didn't mean ugly. He simply meant that when you get involved on line with someone, you have no idea who you are really talking to. ]
hang in there
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Some people are more comfortable with the distance of either e-mail or texting, but when it comes to actually meeting the person, they back off. Depending on what he was messaging you about, you may have gotten the wrong idea. Without knowing the person is hard to tell what their intentions were. If...

If you felt you were truly in love with someone that you perceived was returned in kind, and then you lost her, its possible you are grieving. Even though she didn't die, the relationship did. You can't put a time on grief if that is what is going on. Can you think back and think of the times when y...